The Flower Shop (Why You Should Attachment Parent)

[skeetaboat]

I've been tossing up co-sleeping and baby-wearing and whilst I've really wanted to do it, I've been a bit apprehensive about it as well. This article is really simple, straight to the point and great reinforcement. DH will be given this to read tonight!

Thank you!

Persephone, you won't regret it, it's such a lovely and enjoyable way to parent. I never set out to 'do' attachment parenting, I fell into it because I just loved cuddling and holding bubs and that's what made him happy to. Co-sleeping happened by accident when we went away for a weekend with no cot, and once I discovered it I wondered why I didn't do it from the beginning. So much easier, nicer and so much more sleep. It's not for everyone but we LOVED it. I didn't even know what we were doing was attachment parenting until I stumbled accross some info on the net.

The results of attachment parenting, a secure, happy, emotionally well-adjusted and communicative child, speak for themselves. Now I always think to myself, I'm so glad that I didn't waste a precious minute trying to train him into independence. He's become an independent toddler too damn fast!! And now that we've gone through the process, I realise that respecting and nourishing their need for dependence is what fosters a healthy sense of independence which comes out when they are developmentally ready.

So yeah, just wanted to say you wont regret it, which turned into a bit of a ramble xx

[murraysmum]

i started this with my first bub and he still sometimes sleeps better ad settles better when he sleeps with me i felt safer when he slept in with me and he breastfed all the time ( but i did the same thing and booted him out at 11mnths as hes a bed hog and only sleeps with mummy when scared or sick )

this bub i hope to do the same thing im even going to try baby wearing

that article was realy good thanks for sharing

[~Saram~]

Yep I love my flower shops too, and the best part really is a few years down the track when everyone who thought you were nuts or tried the old "making a rod for your own back" have to eat their words :-)

[Gigi]

i was told countless times i was "making a rod for my own back", "she'll never sleep thru", "DD is the boss" etc - in relation to feeding on request, not leaving her in childcare UNTIL she was happy to see me leave etc.

Now she is three, i see her with the beginnings of manners, thoughtful behaviours, empathy for others, ability to touch babies very gently, turn thin pages without tearing them, very good concentration, for a so-called spoiled with affection child, she is not bratty, and what i never thought i would see, she's starting to be affectionate with me (that took a LONG time). For the last few years, i thought to myself, "so i'm trying all this AP stuff, and my DD won't even let me cuddle her - what am i doing wrong?" - but it's changing now. I had to let her take her own time with this, a big lesson in patience for me - and my own feelings of rejection in general.

We're still bf-ing at three, and if "spoiling" my child means having a healthy looking three year old, that's fine with me. She still has the trumpeter's cheeks from suckling LOL. So funny now that she is talking more, to hear from her how important booby time is to her and how happy it makes her.