i love the full term breastfeeding term (and have completed two terms and only a sneeze there with oscar!)

i believe in saying i am in unpaid work instead of SAHM as i certainly work (although i do love it) and i believe it validates the importance of what i do. i also ask if a mum is in paid work instead of do you work.

another one i never say is naughty - i believe children are learning, their boundarys, our boundarys, whats fun etc. so if someone has said to my kids oh you're naughty i always say no just learning, mind you i don't let them get away with it and explain why.

same with when people ask if your baby is 'good', i ask them to define good and therefore 'bad'. usually 'good' babys sleep through the night, never cry, sleep on their own blah blah blah so i say No my baby has a highly developed survival instinct and therefore wakes up if i leave him alone, isn't he clever he sences that i'm not there and there may be danger around so wakes up and crys to let me know - i usually end this conversation with yes well he's gifted or brilliant.

i agree with the demand feeding one although i never really thought about that one before maybe it could be called meething their needs feeding or responsive feeding yeah i like that one!

i had no idea when i had josh 10 years ago that this style of parenting had a name (maybe it didn't then) i just did what felt right and what my sisters had done. i guess i was lucky to have had some family members that responded to their baby's needs so i watched and learned from that.

kelly i love this forum!

love beckles