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[baiza]

hey

my grandmother past away yesterday and i dont know how to tell my 4 yr old it happened she was close to her and i dont know how to do it

how did tell them?

[Rach75]

be honest kids are much better adapted than we adults think...my sister uses angle stars when her boys get sad about our gran

and my husband lost his grandma yesterday too

[boomba]

firstly hugs to you and your family.

I think Rachel said everything i was going to. I was nearly 6 when my papa passed away and my parents told me the truth and i cried every morning for a month cause i missed him so much. Mum and i would look at old photos and talk about how much we enjoyed his company, this made me focus on the good times and not his passing. I still get upset about it now

So it may be really hard seeing her upset but it will get better. Let her grieve properly and give her lots of cuddles.

Good luck xx

[MistyFying]

baiz for you. At four your little one is going to pick up on your emotions during this time... so it's probably better to tell Chloe what happened in an age appropriate way, than let her become confused about how the grown ups in her world are behaving (as you all grieve). At 4, too, they start to understand death and often start to have a lot of questions about it.

So I suggest you work out how much she needs to know, and how to tell it to her simply. Be prepared to repeat yourself as she'll probably bring it up quite often over the next few months... that's all healthy for her, it's good for littlies to talk it out.

One last suggestion - let others in her support circle (Dad, other relatives, close friends etc) know what you've told her so they can confidently support and affirm what you've already said if she brings it up with them.

I'm sorry you (and your daughter) have to deal with such a difficult part of life so early in her life The best thing you can do for her is lots of love, affirmation and an increased reserve of patience as she works through it all.