Our first son we had his cot in our room and he started the night in there, then came into our bed. At about 14 months we moved house and couldn't fit the cot so we put him in the room across the hall and had both doors open but technically he wasn't in our room anymore. He still came into our bed when he woke up. He started sleeping though at about 19 months old so he was in his room full time from then on. Now if he wakes we resettle him back in his bed.

Youngest baby has had the same drill and is now 16 months old with his cot in our room but spends most the night in bed with us.

We totally creep around and whisper and keep the lights off.