I wish I had an answer! Ds is similar but has shown some improvement since he started kinder (pre-school) this year. I'm also finding that he responds to requests a bit more recently I.e. bringing plates etc to the kitchen. I did think it would be a more simple process than it has been but I have also had to adjust the way I look at things - for eg, acceptimg that ds may not play with toys the way I expect. For eg he rips apart his train tracks but that's how he wants to play with it. Whereas I expected that he would just.send trains around the track.

I just keep repeating as well and.reiterating that once pieces are lost or broken, then that's them gone.

Eta - happy birthday to your ds for last monday I can't believe our babies are 4!!