I spent a day completely focussed on DS and sod work/housework. What came out of that is:
- DS thinks that DH and I are cross with him for leaving him with Mum.
- Mum let DS run riot, laughed at rude and mean behaviour and had no boundaries generally.
- Something is making DS angry, but he can't describe what or why he feels like this randomly.
- He's too bright for his own good.
So, on the day we had together, he put toys away, was polite, helped me clear up after a meal, kissed the children who were poorly in his books, was very affectionate, apologised if I told him off, played with me and on his own. He did a new 60-piece jigsaw puzzle on his own. We played hide-and-seek. We had fun.
He's still not being perfect at Nursery. But he isn't trying there: apparently they're telling me he can't count! I think not, he can count to 12 and I'm starting to think he can read, even if he doesn't do the phonics there. As in - he read the first few lines of The Gruffalo to me. Word-perfect. He's only been hearing this once a day for a week, that's not enough time to learn that by heart. And he recognises books he hasn't read for a year by their spine, not the picture on the front. Probably my imagination though. Or he has inherited my memory skills. He also plays for hours on his own... I think he is taking after me and is just upset when other children invade his space/imagination. I felt like that when I was younger: it's my game, I made it up, you stop trying to play it with me!
Going to work on the anger management this weekend, and letting him know how much we love him. But he's been a lot better since that day together working on it.
Also going to work on his reading words and see if that's causing frustration.
I'm glad things are starting to improve Ryn. It sounds like he has really struggled after getting out of routine? My DS1 can be a bit like that, although he has gotten better with age. It sounds like you are doing all the right things to get him back on track. Spending that quality time with him sounds like it has worked well for you both .
My DS1 never did the "terrible twos", but when he hit three his behaviour went pretty bad. In the end I started a rewards chart for good behaviour. It was actually more for me than for him, it stopped me from focusing on the negatives (i.e - telling him off constantly) and I focused on the positives instead. This made a huge difference in his behaviour.
It sounds to me like you are doing a great job Ryn, I hope your DS continues to improve and go back to his angel-boy ways .
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