Last night wasn't very good. He literally did not want to even go into his room, let alone his bed, even with the 'go away spray'. I tried rocking him to sleep in the chair in his room and at around 9.30 when he was finally drifting off, he started screaming and had to get out of the room. The poor little thing seemed really scared to go to sleep . He ended up falling asleep in our bed not long after and then I moved him to his room. He came back into our bed at around 1am, thankfully he wasn't upset though. But then he woke up at 4am and started vomitting Poor little thing isn't very well, so I think we'll just let him sleep where he wants to for now and tackle it in a few days... I am thinking I might take him shopping to buy a new doona cover and see if that reignites an interest in his bed...
DD1 had a few weeks a while ago of refusing to sleep in her room. too scared !! and then in the night when she would stir, she would full wake up and either come in to our room or shout out for me to get her. which with a baby in our bed already wasnt ideal.
We got new bed sheets, and made her room really nice. dh does a great job of getting her excited about stuff and she was excited about her new bed and room. we moved her pet guinea pig in there too to keep her company. her room is quite light and after a long chat we found that making it darker was actually better for her. i think maybe weird shadows or something were freaking her out.
she still says she is scared of the dark and has a torch by her bed that she can use if she wakes up. every night she picks a different teddy and normall ends up with about ten in there but where ever helps her out.
she also has a monster/bad dream catcher (dream catcher).
i tell her a story when shes scared about a big hill, beautiful grass, bunnies '' we are walking up the hill and the soft grass is springing under our feet, the birds are singing and daddy has a football, we are all playing football'' etc etc, you get the picture, something really calming and pretty, noramly i include all the family and we are all doing something really fun, i tell her to think about that if she wakes in the night and cant get back to sleep. it seems to work sometimes.
also i told her that there is a protective force field round the house, if she asks about ghosts or monsters i giggle and tell her that they cant possibly get anywhere near her cause mummy put the protective force field around her!! and then i normally case her around making monster noises till she is giggling!!
failing all of that she sleeps in our bed.
hope hes feeling better soon and gets over the big scary red man!!
As much as I like the idea of the repellent spray, I'm just too lazy to organise it . When my DS1 has had fears, I've told him that I can be a very cranky mum with scary people, and I simply won't let them stay in my house at all. I kind of role-play it, and show DS1 what/how I'd tell the bad person/monster/alien/dinosaur to leave, using my strictest, "don't mess with me I'm a very tough mum" kind of tone, and then after I've finished telling off the bad guy (and making sure he's gone), I tell DS1 that I will always protect him etc etc. So far so good, this has worked pretty well.
Hopefully you'll find that when he's over the vomitting bug he settles down again.
. He ended up falling asleep in our bed not long after and then I moved him to his room. He came back into our bed at around 1am, thankfully he wasn't upset though. But then he woke up at 4am and started vomitting
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. When my DS1 has had fears, I've told him that I can be a very cranky mum with scary people, and I simply won't let them stay in my house at all. I kind of role-play it, and show DS1 what/how I'd tell the bad person/monster/alien/dinosaur to leave, using my strictest, "don't mess with me I'm a very tough mum" kind of tone, and then after I've finished telling off the bad guy (and making sure he's gone), I tell DS1 that I will always protect him etc etc. So far so good, this has worked pretty well. 
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