It certainly makes life easier for everyone if they do. I don't really expect that other people should be inconvenienced by my children's bedtime.
We're on holidays with my family at the moment. I can just put my boys to sleep in a spare bed/sofa wherever we are and they will go to sleep. Same with my cousin's children. My evenings are simpler than my SILS' who need quiet for bedtime.
Even if your family are all quiet for bedtime you will find that hotels, campsites etc can often be unexpectedly noisy.
When my boys were babies I vacuumed, talked on the phone, watched tv and other noisy stuff while they slept. I have never had cause to regret it. On the contrary, I'm quite glad my children are used to sleeping through noise.
Being a light sleeper sucks. A lot. I hate it. I can't sleep anywhere. I can't sleep in a bright room etc. so when my kids were babies I never made a fuss. I took them to parties. They slept in their rooms during the day with ample light.
They both sleep now like their father. Anywhere. Anyhow. And I'm grateful. Because being me. Sucks.
So for me it was never about them inconveniencing me with their sleep. But me not setting them up to have sleeping difficulties like me.
In the rare occasions that I have had my kids asleep in shared accommodation I like to remind the yeller of my rule that if they wake the kid then they have to deal with that grumpy, tired kid for the rest of the day. It isn't like you are expecting total silence, just but a bit of courtesy.
When DS was born I was totally going to make all kinds of noise while he slept so he got used to sleeping around noise and wasn't a light sleeper like me. That lasted all of a couple of weeks when every sound woke him and I couldn't get him back to sleep. I pretty much didn't move while he was sleeping because he would wake up. No use trying to desensitise him to it if he was awake after 3 seconds every time. I remember trying to pack to move house and he would wake up every single time I tried to tape up a box with packing tape at the other end of the house!.
I am with Rouge. I am a terrible sleeper. I am exactly the same. My kids are well used to noise, and sleep better now if they can hear us. I was recently away with a 9 month old. Her parents made us sit in silence every evening and sleep time. It was terrible and we won't go away with them again. We ended up sitting outside in the rain with our kids as they said they were too noisy.
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'Kids have to learn to sleep though noise'
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