'Kids have to learn to sleep though noise'

[Freya]

If any of my kids needed quiet to sleep.........well they wouldn't sleep lol my babies can sleep through any noise and I have never tippy toed and forced others, even in my own house, to subscribe to an impossible version of quiet. It just can't be done unless your alone. I think even in restless or light sleepers that's just compounding the problem.

I think my dh is a good case of sleep training working. He wasn't the deepest sleeper before he joined the military but after 12 years of learning to sleep through noise (from general noise to being rocketed) the man sleeps like the dead! Almost to the point of ridiculousness, the kids can be squealing right next to his head and he is still snoring away. One of our kids inherited that outright, one is a deep sleeper when he is asleep and one is a light sleeper but he has learnt to manage.

But I'd agree that people do pay off kids as not important for consideration in a lot of things sure. And that's not cool.

[Sagres]

This is the issue I had with my ILs over christmas. My SIL & BILs kids were running up and down the passage blowing those party blower things that unroll the paper when you blow on them right outside the room where DD2 was just drifting off. Then when I said - hey she is trying to go to sleep maybe keep it down I was looked at like being unreasonable. Of course BIL and SIL don't tell their kids to maybe keep it down a bit or maybe go to another part of the very large house, so I go cool, I'll just move DD2 and her cot to the other end of the house so the kids can keep blowing their irritating blowers AND she can get to sleep. Then when she is asleep I get the condescending 'she's a bit sensitive to sound is she?' questions. Umm running and squealing and blowing blowers 3 feet from her constitutes 'sensitive to sound' does it....right! Then the rest of her sleep BIL, SIL, MIL and FIL are like 'oh no we can't go anywhere near that end of the house DD2 is sleeping' laying THAT tone on really thick. DH and I are like nah it's fine, get stuff out of the next room, get stuff out of the room she is in - we do often, but just don't yell while doing it. But still with THAT tone and still with the condescending comments.

So like most other posters I don't require silence and wouldn't expect others to create silence when ever my girls are sleeping, but I expect the squealing and blowing to be toned down or moved away.

[Trillian]

This is the issue I had with my ILs over christmas. My SIL & BILs kids were running up and down the passage blowing those party blower things that unroll the paper when you blow on them right outside the room where DD2 was just drifting off. Then when I said - hey she is trying to go to sleep maybe keep it down I was looked at like being unreasonable. Of course BIL and SIL don't tell their kids to maybe keep it down a bit or maybe go to another part of the very large house, so I go cool, I'll just move DD2 and her cot to the other end of the house so the kids can keep blowing their irritating blowers AND she can get to sleep. Then when she is asleep I get the condescending 'she's a bit sensitive to sound is she?' questions. Umm running and squealing and blowing blowers 3 feet from her constitutes 'sensitive to sound' does it....right! Then the rest of her sleep BIL, SIL, MIL and FIL are like 'oh no we can't go anywhere near that end of the house DD2 is sleeping' laying THAT tone on really thick. DH and I are like nah it's fine, get stuff out of the next room, get stuff out of the room she is in - we do often, but just don't yell while doing it. But still with THAT tone and still with the condescending comments.

So like most other posters I don't require silence and wouldn't expect others to create silence when ever my girls are sleeping, but I expect the squealing and blowing to be toned down or moved away.

Yeah, that's not cool at all! I would have been ****ed with the passive aggressive comments about it too.