DS has just started family day care (6 hours days at the moment - 10 hrs next week) and I am really struggling to see any positives in this situation! This morning he was so anxious when he realised that we were going to leave him and the last two days has cried when we picked him up. I have never seen him look so devastated. The first few weeks he was a trooper but now he's figured out whats going on and is doing it tough. I feel like I am scarring him for life!

If I thought he was in capable hands things would be a lot easier. But I'm not sure. I don't know if she responds to DS when he cries, if she plays with him, cuddles him..I can't be sure. Yes, communication is a big issue too. My husband and I are introverts and English is not her fisrt language so no-one really talks much

I feel sick every morning at drop off and today I was shaking at work I was so nervous about what was happening at day care. I am back on waiting list for FDC so am hoping and praying we will get a call soon..
I can imagine how hard it is hun.
You can stay at the home for a while (however long you like) to watch the interaction between the carer and your DS. That will give you a small idea I guess. You could also talk with the CDO attached to your FDC provider to see how he is when they go and and do assessments (once a month I think - can't be sure how often they area)
Is a communication book a possability to help break that barrier down?
I hope you get a call soon I have my for you.
xx