Aargh been trying to reply to say thanks all day but have a very cuddly (ie clingy) boy today (not complaining really)! Thankyou so much everyone. You made me cry when I read all your posts.

I'm feeling more positive today, and am excited about looking for a carer or a centre that is a better match for us. I am going to go with my gut and get DS out of there. I have been trying ot think outside the square a bit in terms of a better arrangement for us but have no family nearby, and yes I have to work and no, a nanny probably isnt in the budget.. I would love love love to be home with DS all day. Its an awesome age - he just took his first steps!

Tish, I think you are spot on. Sunshine, I am thinking about doing a communication book but am dreading bringing it up as I feel we are already the 'high maintenance' family with all our questions!