Leaving your baby in day care - how do you get through it?

[Panda74]

Aargh been trying to reply to say thanks all day but have a very cuddly (ie clingy) boy today (not complaining really)! Thankyou so much everyone. You made me cry when I read all your posts.

I'm feeling more positive today, and am excited about looking for a carer or a centre that is a better match for us. I am going to go with my gut and get DS out of there. I have been trying ot think outside the square a bit in terms of a better arrangement for us but have no family nearby, and yes I have to work and no, a nanny probably isnt in the budget.. I would love love love to be home with DS all day. Its an awesome age - he just took his first steps!

Tish, I think you are spot on. Sunshine, I am thinking about doing a communication book but am dreading bringing it up as I feel we are already the 'high maintenance' family with all our questions!

[onthefly]

Go with the gut, yeah. We pulled DS out of daycare cause it just wasn't working for any of us. I wish we'd listened to our instincts from the get go - we would have saved ourself some grief. I don't think DS is forever traumatised by the experience, but it has had a lasting impact. I can see it.
Good luck making other arrangements!

[Rowellen]

Don't worry about being "high maintenance". It's your baby so ask all the questions you like. Better to know the answers to your questions then to wonder what''s going on.

I hope you can find something that works soon.

[BrightSparkles]

Sunshine, I am thinking about doing a communication book but am dreading bringing it up as I feel we are already the 'high maintenance' family with all our questions!

DOn't worry about being high maintence. There are people out there worse NOt to mention, you need to do what is best for your family.
GL xx

[Panda74]

Took DS to FDC this morning (we will take him out but in the mean time he can't stay home by himself!). He cried when he saw the carer and screamed when we left. This is a boy who has never been a cryer so it was hard to see. After 4 hours I got a call to come get him, he hadn't settled, eaten or drank his milk (had some water) or slept. So tomorrow I'm off to work again at 8am .. The carer said to try again tomorrow but I don't know..

DS' Grandma has just offered to drive up (she's 4 hours away) and live in Brisbane part time for a few months she is so worried about him. Shall I take her up on the offer? While she'll struggle at nap time (who am I kidding - he won't sleep for her at all!) and I'll be worried about what mayhem will ensue with DS and Grandma alone I know that they'll have fun together.

Just worried about the chopping and changing for DS. We settled him to day care fairly gently (that paid off well!) and will have to settle him into somewhere else soon and in the mean time get him used to Grandma looking after him.. I've never left him with ANYONE except this carer.

My head is spinning!

[BrightSparkles]

Took DS to FDC this morning (we will take him out but in the mean time he can't stay home by himself!). He cried when he saw the carer and screamed when we left. This is a boy who has never been a cryer so it was hard to see. After 4 hours I got a call to come get him, he hadn't settled, eaten or drank or slept. So tomorrow I'm off to work again at 8am .. The carer said to try again tomorrow but I don't know..

DS' Grandma has just offered to drive up (she's 4 hours away) and live in Brisbane part time for a few months she is so worried about him. Shall I take her up on the offer? While she'll struggle at nap time (who am I kidding - he won't sleep for her at all!) and I'll be worried about what mayhem will ensue with DS and Grandma alone I know that they'll have fun together.

Just worried about the chopping and changing for DS. We settled him to day care fairly gently (that paid off well!) and will have to settle him into somewhere else soon and in the mean time get him used to Grandma looking after him.. I've never left him with ANYONE except this carer.

My head is spinning!

Personally, if it were me, i'd take her up on the offer.

[Daffodil Mumma]

If it were me I would take Grandma up on the offer...especially if it means your DS will be in his own home while youre at work. That way your not having to continue at the FDC while finding another place for him. And being at home with Grandma he isnt having to re-adjust to new surrounding just to have it change again.
Like the other ladies have said go with your gut....and what I have learnt very quickly is when it comes to your baby there is no such thing as too many questions!!!
Goodluck

[Ginger]

i would definitely take grandma's offer. Being one on one with a family member who loves him is a great scenerio i think. Definitely do it, it will be beneficial for both of them- lots of grandma cuddles and love...aawwww

[Rowellen]

i would definitely take grandma's offer. Being one on one with a family member who loves him is a great scenerio i think. Definitely do it, it will be beneficial for both of them- lots of grandma cuddles and love...aawwww

:yeahthat: Grandma's are great for cuddles & cuddles are great for babies