After a bad run of health issues and a lot of stresses that can't be avoided DS's sleep, both day and nights are terrible.

A bit of back ground : He used to be great. Self settle, any where anytime in my arms or out. Then at 6 months there was a huge change in the family and he weaned and we identified a dairy allergy. At 8 months we got into a sleep clinic but they identified a chronic ear infection and adenoids that were enormous. Operation to sort that out and we had a bit of luck then he developed Kawasaki disease and it threw everything out again. Add to that another huge change in our situation that's now causing even more stress.

So now he won't settle in my arms, will lie in his cot either wrapped or in a sleeping bag quietly if I'm there but scream if I leave. He'll fall asleep in the car but will wake when I get him out. He'll eventually fall asleep in his cot or in my bed up to two hours to settle but at 11 he'll wake and be unsettled for an hour or so and then sleep with me for the rest of the night.

I have a great evening routine, dinner, bath, bottle, quiet time then bed and that was established months ago but doesn't seem to help.

Does anyone have any suggestions for routines or books to read? I really need my sleep to help cope with my DD's and him and I'm at my wits end