mainly, people feel honoured that you trusted them enough to call on them in a time of need - and would be hurt if they knew you’d been struggling and you didn’t ask. This is still part of him healing. When he is better he will sleep. Don’t worry that you are setting up bad habits or anything. Sleeping with you is very normal and even desirable when he’s had such a tough time. And if you all get some sleep - fabulous. You are doing great