We had someone say to me that I should smack Jovie who is only 10 months old because she deserved it for crying.
Are you fricken kidding me? That is ridiculous, that alone makes my blood boil.

Beck, is Oscar ok now, or is he still "shut down"? I can't offer any solution, I just wanted to say how un called for ANY discipline from someone other than you or your partner is, you parent your kids, not her!