Need HELP with mummies boy!!

[~*Niadalla*~]

ok, well I am having probs with my mummies boy!!

For one, he sleeps with us as he refuses to sleep in his cot or anywhere else.
No probs, we're happy to do this.
He is Breastfed (yay!), and he also loves his sling!!

He is a very happy boy when hes not crying! lol
I love having him with me alot... but sometimes I just need a break!
I cannot possibly get any housework done! I wear him in the sling, but I find it so hard to do anything with it on. I dont wanna hurt himand I worry that I will

He used to LOVE his bouncer and fall straight to sleep in it.
In the last 2-3 weeks, he can handle the bouncer for about 15 mins, then he begins to cry.
If I walk back into the room and he locks eyes with me, he calms right down.. adn only grizzles a little.

Hes not hungry, doesnt need a change, hes not hot or cold, hes usually tired, but just will not sleep unless he is being held or he is in my bed with me.

In regards to the sling, he LOVE LOVE LOVES IT! He will fall asleep within minutes of being placed in it.
it does hurt my back and neck at times, as it is an infantino sling, hangs over one shoulder...
So, I place the sling on the floor, with Lach inside, making sure he can breathe, and he will continue to sleep!!! WHAT?? I NEVER leave him alone when hes like this! I just cant beleive he will sleep in it, on the floor!

Well th whole point of tis thread, is to ask people of ways I can get some housework done, even just an hours worth a day??
I HATE him crying! I dont like the idea of controlled crying and I dont beleive it works for my little man... I have tried it
He just loves his mum so much..... I know I should live itup while I can, but ths place is turning into the local tip, and we're in the middle of moving house!!!!

Any tips/ hints/ advice would be greatly appreciated.

I also was wondering if fr the day sleeps, a nice big pic of my smiling face put on the side of his cot, might help? Kind of make him think I'm still there?

I know it sounds stupid, but im willing to try anything. He is missing out on sleep!
thanks

[Ca Plane Pour Moi]

Get a HaB sling as they're better for your back.

Get your DH to do some housework.

I keep DS on my hip as I vacuum, he sits in his chair watching me as I wash up, he will do a bit of alone play a day but not much, DH has to amuse him while I cook dinner and that's often taking him to see me!

I use the pushchair for his sleeps 2-3 times a week so he gets used to sleeping without me. It took forever for DS to be OK going into his own bed, I used to feed him to sleep then put him in the crib, then remove my arm over about 5 minutes, leaving him with his bedtime bunny and something smelling of me. He only now goes to sleep in his bed when he wakes up, but I still feed him to sleep and have to sing and pat him to sleep. Small steps are the way to go, if he plays alone for a minute without crying build it up to 2 minutes over a couple of days, before you know it you can have a shower without having to sing "never smile at a crocodile" (I'm still waiting for that day LOL).

HTH!

[JoMarie]

I second the Hug A Bub. Nicholas has reflux so practically lived in it for the first 3 months! He cried everytime we put him down, hated his cot/pram/our bed, and would only sleep if we were holding him! No housework got done, and we almost drowned in all the washing, but eventually he got better at sleeping and gradually, he started to sleep in his cot. I still use the HAB and he still loves it, and although he is about 8kg, I still find it comfortable to wear for long periods.

Another option - get a cleaner for a few months until his sleeps get better!

[Angel]

Your bub sounds very much like my J. Only sleeps when in my arms, in the HAB, or in bed with us and occasionally in his vibrating bouncer. He spends most of the day on my lap or in the HAB. If I put him down for a few minutes he will scream (and I mean get utterly hysterical very quickly). I do an absolute minimum of housework (would definitely not be anywhere near an hour a day!). If it's not absolutely essential then it doesn't get done. Most of what needs to be done can be done with bub in a sling, otherwise it can be done when DH/DP is playing with bub. If you have family near you then maybe they could help out sometimes. I keep J in the HAB for as long as I can while I'm getting dinner ready, or I use the slow cooker where possible, and then put him in the bouncer on the other side of the kitchen when I'm actually cooking on the stove.

Things get messy here (esp with a 2yo!) but I'd choose a happy & secure baby over a spotless house any day! Anyway, a bit of dirt's supposed to be good for their immune system isn't it? LOL

[~*Niadalla*~]

Thanks everyone.
woudlnt be so worried about the lceaning issue, just that we are moving house... so its a little hard tryingto pack, clean and do te gardening. I have been recruiting Lachs Aunties for a fe whours so that they can hold/play with him and I can get a little bit done.