What part of co sleeping dont you understand??!!!

[maz]

We are heading off to PIL's this weekend....and I swear everytime we go they question were mini me and tank sleep.....they try and try to get them to sleep upstairs in beds made for them in the same room as the boys...um...mini me would flip for starters...she likes her own bed at home but tends to sleep close to us when we go else were and tank ends up co sleeping with us. I have told them sooo many times its not funny.
Yet again, this morning on the phone I was asked if the cot should be put up because tank will need it from FIL??!!
WTF!!!!
What part of co sleeping dont you understand??

Im sick of being told how aweful it is...how grose and blah it is. How children need their own beds.

BUGGER OFF!!!!!

I know im going to get pumped by SIL's when we get down....have them roll their eye's at me yet again about it and immunisation (dont even get me started with that one).

But why is it so hard for people in general to understand or even comprehend that if your comfortable with it then so be it??? Why do they try to push you into something that just doesnt fit with your parenting choices?

[Ella]

Oh I'm sooooo with you here. We finally got DS sleeping through the night after 4 months of waking 2-3 times a night. My mum suggested chamomile tea and Brauer's teething remedy and it worked and we've been sleeping for the last 6 nights in a row. Anyhow went down to MIL's 2 nights ago and joyously told her what had happened and she rolled her eyes at me and told me I need to be giving him hot milo to get him to sleep trough. Yes crazy lady I will give my son who is allergic to dairy a hot milo made on milk that is full of sugar, chocolate (caffeine) and artificial flavours, even though we both know he's extremely sensitive to sugar.

For F***ks sake! I even explained that we had tried panadol and that didn't work, but no because she doesn't believe in alternate anything she thinks its hurting him and that its a bloody joke!

And she also grills me about letting DS come into our bed when he is screaming in pain from his teeth. Ok have it your way I'll let him scream on the couch for an hour.... NOT!!!!

In other words I feel your pain lol

[Lulu]

maybe just tell them "yeah, set it up how you want", then rearrange it when you get there. Saves PRE arguments at least.

[maz]

I have in the past Lulu...but we arrive at about 8pm at night and the last thing I want to do with a sore arse is to drag 2 mattresses down stairs with 2 smalls kids hanging off me because their tires and excited about 'falling' down stairs KWIM. Plus MIL then gets all frantic and makes it know how silly it is

I think the most annoying thing is that I respect their belief's, their parenting, their choices and I had hoped they would respect ours back in return. Bit hard when my BIL's wives do everything by the book (literally) and my SIL's being nurses so everything is so clinical so I look like im the stupid one in their eyes.

I continuously have disposable wipes, nappies, book recommendations thrown at me....man they even know mario and his condition better then me ...especially when it comes to his eating habits

Ella - OMG she quiet obviously know he's allergic to milk? Seriously...I know they mean well but we do these things for a reason..not to make THEIR (meaning PIL's) lives hard. I used camomile for min...and fenal tea with a little bit of honey (tut tut)...works a blasted treat!!!! Thank good for your mum

[deletedit]

Allergies don't exist according to some poeple. My MIL knows I'm allergic to soy lecithin but still either buys stuff full of it for us, or tosses all the packets of things so I can't check the ingredients.

So whenever I go there its either avoid the snacks there like the plague or endure a massive sneezing fit when I get home. I have a delayed reaction and don't stay there long so she's never seen me in ubersneeze mode - its not pretty.

[Persephone1]

We've been co-sleeping for 2 weeks and loving it. My MIL does not love it. She's seething! She keeps going on about the safety hazards, bought us cot sheets, and grilled us about when we were going to buy a cot. I told her it would more likely be a toddler bed cause we intend to co-sleep for awhile yet! She's tried dissuading us from doing it by telling me how noisy little boys can be - ha, I know! My newborn son is the noisiest sleeper and I LOVE IT. So bugger off woman!

What annoys me is that she seems to think we just woke up one day and said "Can't be bothered buying a cot, let's just let him sleep with us." Instead, we thought about it, talked about it, read about it, and assessed all the risks. Co-sleeping works for us, and we take it very seriously, like all our parenting decisions. Why does she think she has a right to tell us how bad co-sleeping is when she hasn't done her own research!

Grrrr. So, yeah, I feel your pain. Good luck hun.