We've been co-sleeping for 2 weeks and loving it. My MIL does not love it. She's seething! She keeps going on about the safety hazards, bought us cot sheets, and grilled us about when we were going to buy a cot. I told her it would more likely be a toddler bed cause we intend to co-sleep for awhile yet! She's tried dissuading us from doing it by telling me how noisy little boys can be - ha, I know! My newborn son is the noisiest sleeper and I LOVE IT. So bugger off woman!
What annoys me is that she seems to think we just woke up one day and said "Can't be bothered buying a cot, let's just let him sleep with us." Instead, we thought about it, talked about it, read about it, and assessed all the risks. Co-sleeping works for us, and we take it very seriously, like all our parenting decisions. Why does she think she has a right to tell us how bad co-sleeping is when she hasn't done her own research!
Maz- oh yeah she knows he's allergic to milk she seems to imply quite often that I'm making it up and scoffs every time I get the Oat milk out- yeah right because its really easy and enjoyable for me to deny him everything with milk in it that he wants!
My IL's always borrow a port-a-cot when we are visiting, even though we have told them that we won't use it and the baby will be fine in with us. They get it anyway "just in case"
My first thought after reading your post was why does it bother you so much? It's not like you are conforming to their ideals is it? No, you are sticking to your guns and doing what YOU think is right for YOUR children. IMO let it slide coz it's small stuff and that's the stuff you don't sweat. If they don't get it well let them be in blissful ignorance state of mind
See but hte problem with letting it slide is that if they are anything like my IL's they take silence or anythign other than no as a signal that you agree with them and then off they go on a whirl wind to convert every sinlge thing you are doing 'wrong' to their 'right' way of doing it. I've learnt this from experience. It's never a subtle push when they think you don't mind either its like a shove off a cliff!
I have tried in the past to do it Tiffany but youd think after 10 years of having their grandchildren and being in the family for almost 14 that they would know me. I wouldnt be truthful to myself let alone them if I didnt let them know how I feel. Yes it maybe a small thing....but those small things mount up to a stage that you explode and get asked why you didnt say something earlier.
Im already letting her take control over dudies 10th birthday celebrations with the family as he is her first grandson and its not worth the hassel to say no KWIM. PLus it makes her feel important and Im happy for her to be excited about his birthday.
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