Now I don't really class myself as any "type" of parent and I don't really follow a certain 'style' I just go with whatever works ITMS But I am really after tips for my DD's (2.5 year old) behaviour. Its actually at the point where I wake up dreading 'not-kindy' days. I realise that we have recently just moved at that could be the cause of her unsettledness (if that's a word lol ) but I honestly think there is more to it then that because she was displaying some of the kinds of behaviour before hand ya' know. I'm not even really sure where to begin, there's so many things she's doing at the moment that are just making me want to rip my hair out. So, I guess i'll just list some examples of the things that I am really struggling with at the moment.

1. The whinging! The whingy whiny voice until she gets her own way, most times even tears over absolutely nothing until she's getting what she wants.
2. The shouting and demanding. She'll be in another room and just shout at you and call you over and over demanding what she wants. Even if you say 'please wait Ava' she'll still keep repeating and shouting what she wants over and over.
3. The hitting. She's been having these tantrums lately, again when she's not getting her own way and sometimes not even a full blown tantrum where she will see no problem with slapping me or close fisting me in the face (of course doesn't do it to daddy) This is one of the ones that is just really grinding my gears, i just hate being slapped in the face (by anyone lol )
4. Dinner time has just turned into a nightmare. Im a firm believer of not making 3-4 meals a night because she doesn't like what is put down in front of her. The dinners that I do make she usually loves but lately i'll put dinner down in front of her and she'll say NO! and push it to the side and cause a big fuss over it and want to get down from the table and go do whatever while me and dp eat. The negotiating part is just so draining. Its become every single dinner time before i've even gotten to the table with my own dinner she hasn't even tasted it, just looked at it and pushed it away.Or will have maybe 3 mouthfulls then say im done and want to hop down.
5. The not listening..... ohh man this one is sooo hard and I realise maybe I need to learn a bit more patience but i'll ask her something she wont listen and I can feel teh stress and anxiety rise in me straight away. I don't want to have to keep repeating myself severel hundred times I just want her to do it the first time. By the end of the day I am so sick of the sound of my own voice of the No, stop that. Don't touch that, ava that's dangerous, ava put that down, no that's enough please etc etc. God even typing it makes my eye twitch lol This is also a problem when she asks for something and either me or my dp say no to so she's not getting her own way and will continue to ask and nag and carry on.
6. Sleep time. This kid knows how to work us I tell you what. She's put into bed she asks for all these different books ( I swear she goes to bed with like 7 books a night and sooo many of her toys) and then she'll lay there calling out "daddddyyyyy" and does it over and over, if you ignore her she gets even louder, whingy'er and then it turns into I want different books/more books, I want a drink, I threw my toy off the bed... this can go on anywhere from 20 minutes to an hour and a half

Um.. I think thats all I can think of right now, but they're the main ones that are just driving me bonkers. I do do time out and it seems to do nothing. Im thinking maybe I need to get the sticker chart going again that did seem to help once before If you got this far thank you, I know its mammoth