Oh my...joys of boys

[~Saram~]

Well done Maz! You did such an awesome job! The firies do have a program for kids who light fires but I know with Xander the bigger deal I make of something the more risk it becomes a new obcession I think you handled it so well, calm and low key and I'm guessing the consequence = very effective :-)

heres hoping not something you have to deal with again

[MistyFying]

I'm very glad you're all safe

[Amity]

Maz, so proud of you for handling it the way you did. I'm so impressed.

And so grateful that everything is ok!

[maz]

oh the firies you say Sarah and stary. Might give them a call and see if I can organise something, even if its me just going down there so one of them can have a chat to the boys.

Leesa - you know me to well dear. Yes have bought some from ebay BUT have found something even better. I went about got one of the gardern solar lights and bought it inside. The room has a nice glow about it and the sun made it

I can see why he did it....his brain would have been ticking over 1000 times over about it.

We left a note in his communication book (its been found ) that he is NOT to go to the lego shopping tomorrow and rang his teacher quickly, who agreed that it was a good punishment for doing what he did. I still feel about it and I know I shouldnt but I feel terrible he cant go tomorrow because he has been looking forward to this for 2 weeks. BUT I have to pull my big girl panties up and stick to my guns.

Thank you all for your reassuring words. I thought that perhaps I had done things wrong and gone a bit overboard wth just tlaking to him about it but I can see how much more effective it has been.

[~clover~]

Maybe later you could try getting him to do some positive & you could take him lego shopping? Its really hard to follow through when you know they have been looking forward to something for so long.
But, christmas is in a week & a half. There'll be enough excitement in that for him

[~Saram~]

Maz - I know exactly what you mean - when I read your consequence my stomach fell and I thought - wow she is a much stronger parent than me - I wouldn't have been game as I know the tantrums that would have ensued for weeks - but we have had to do similar at times. Something I found helped (don't know if it's the "right" thing to do as far as parenting rules but it works for us) is to say - yep it's gone but... you work it back up by doing this right and this right (we have to be specific - as you would understand) and we keep a chart and then I might take him somewhere equivilent or whatever the consequence removed was. I don't know - often I think I am teaching him he can do the wrong thing and make up for it but at the same time it seems to work with how our DS thinks and we haven't had any reprocussions (yet :-)

Hope the fall out isn't too bad

[Jennifer13]

This reminds me of DP's story of him and his brother hiding under their house as boys burning the spider webs with matches...