Hmmm, I know my DH values the way I parent. I think he's just a bit over it, as Krystals said - at the end of a long day to come home to mess. He doesn't expect a pristine home, he just doesn't think its present state is acceptable. I think we'd like to try & achieve a balance, if that's possible. If my house is a mess (toys everywhere etc), i dont feel its the best example for my kids or a restful place to be in. I know that i get bugged by it - wouldn't they?

And I'm like you, Krystals. I tidy at night - but then I feel a bit resentful towards DH who's watching TV while I'm tidying! Perhaps there's a tidying game I could create in the afternoon with the kids to at least put a small dint in the mess...