Sometimes when my children are driving me up the wall I like to rethink the situation and consider that they might be my spiritual medicine. Yes, they really push you to the limit and really test the way you think of yourself. Oh yes I *thought* I was a kind, tolerant and forgiving person before I had children... but since having them I realise that I didn't know a thing about those attributes. It's not until you are tested that you find out how really "good" or "weak" you are. No one likes to take distasteful medicine but if you swallow it and deal with it it will make you a stronger person in the long run.