reassurance please

[~clover~]

I still lay with DD3 & am in the room for DS til they're both asleep. Why let a child be upset & scared when its actually easier to just sit with them for 20 minutes or so. (Sometimes 2 hours, but hey, still easier than listening to them cry!)

DS has actually been coming into my bed later on more often than DD3 the last few weeks...

[Ree*Ree]

Ignore those doubts and all the haters, you are doing what you feel is best for Spock!
It still happens to me sometimes though, that little alter-ego in my head that actually (stupidly) cares what others think about what I do, and tries to suggest that I conform to what other people think is the right way of doing things so I can feel more socially acceptable. And then I wake up. And I remember WHY I chose to do things the way I do e.g. cuddling DS to sleep until *he* was ready to stop at about 20 months, no problems whatsoever and he was completely ready himself and we were all happy. And doing BLS instead of preparing mashed meals. And using cloth nappies, because that's what I wanted to do.
And I am always complimented on what a great 'eater' DS is, how well he sleeps wherever he may be, how happy and content and polite a boy we have raised. And I have converted a few Mums to cloth as well!

So it took a little while to completely shut out the (IMO) nonsense advice and stick to my guns, and now that some of the fruits of my parenting choices are being recognised I think more people are *really* listening to what I have to say And maybe, just a little bit, I have changed some attitudes and ideas...
And I've definitely managed to lock down that pesky self-doubting alter-ego to the very rare occurance