Tanya, yep Kynan has been like this ever since he was little. At 10w we started going to mothers group and the other bubs would be interacting straight away but Kynan always needed time to adjust and take things in. I've had comments too that he'd be better off if I surround him with lots of new people and leave him with new & different people all the time etc but in my heart I honestly don't believe that would help him. I think that would make him feel like the world is a really scary place and that there's nowhere he can feel safe. I want for him to be able to trust that I will be there for him IYKWIM? So whilst I try to encourage him to try new things and provide gentle reassurance, I refuse to force him into situations where he's uncomfortable and I don't ignore his distress because it's obviously a very real and upsetting thing for him.
Lucas does sound a lot like Kynan. Kynan is fine when we go out too, even at the shops where it's crowded he's quite happy and likes to look around at all the people but as soon as someone he's not so familiar with gets up close and tries to interact with him he starts crying. If he's had time to get used to the person then he's okay if they talk to him but it takes a lot again for him to let someone touch him.
ETA: Ambah, how did Aidyn go at his 18m check? The CHN was trying to get Kynan to point to his body parts (which he loves doing at home) but of course he was too freaked out to even move. The CHN made it sound like she almost didn't believe me when I said that he usually does do it. And one of the other checks is supposed to be for him to walk around barefoot but when he's really scared he'll either just stand still or sit/lie on the floor...
Last edited by Angel; November 22nd, 2006 at 10:53 AM.
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