I'm not up to the fighting/hitting stage with DS but I plan on talking to him about how the other person feels, so the natural consequence is that he's hurt someones feelings and now they're upset and may not want to play with him.
Struggling with finding the natural consequence for playing with the gas heater. Potentially burning to death seems a bit extreme. Daddy goes mental also seems inappropriate, but that's whats been happening! This article is EXACTLY what I've been looking for recently, so thank you
Here are some natural consequences I do with Liebling (age 5):
If you get dressed when I wake you up instead of stripping then screaming that you're "shivery" and therefore cannot dress yourself (when I have given you your clothes so you can strip and dress under the duvet), you get 3+ breakfasts before school as we have time for that.
I know there is a light behind the TV, it is a power switch. It is electricity. If you play with it, you get hurt, like in Star Wars when Darth Vader dies.
The oven is really, really hot. I'll open it and you can put your hand near the warm air from the door briefly. That's ouchy hot, isn't it? How hot would it be if you touched it? Good idea, let's not do that. (or) If you do touch it, it will burn you. Like when you kicked Mamma's coffee all over your arm and her face. So it hurts then you have to have cold water on it for 15 minutes, which you don't like, so it doesn't blister. (or) If you touch it, you get cooked like the sausages. No, I don't think we should touch it either. (Lots of examples for lots of different hot things and depending on how dark my humour is at the time!)
That isn't respectful talking to me. I don't talk to people who don't respect me. You can apologise and we will talk about the issue or I won't play with you until you show respect. (FWIW, Liebling is welcome to question my decisions, so long as it is respectfully done - although that's classed as "talking back" by some.)
Fighting hurts people. Is it nice to hurt people/Do you like to be hurt? Then why do you choose to hurt another? Let's apologise for hurting then talk the problem through together without violence.
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