I say to my DS "When you calm down, I will talk to you." I do not discuss anything with him while he is throwing a tantrum. I leave his immediate area, if he follows I move again. If he keeps following me I say to him "I can see that you need my attention so calm down and I will give you a hug". This way I am not pandering to him, he is not "winning" as such, and I am showing him what behaviour is acceptable and what is not but at the same time I am there for him when he needs me. I definately do not give in to whatever had caused the tantrum.

I don't make my son say sorry. To me they are just words. By him calming down and accepting the situation that is enough for me at his age.

HTH