We say a few things to Jenna now that we will have to get out of doing before she really knows what we mean. Like we call her ratbag, trouble and sometimes tubby 8-[ - her thighs are soooo big... LOL. And the swearing - we have to cut that out now!
But we are also praising her all the time, lots of good girls, and give mummy kisses, and "cuddle cuddle, squeeze" etc. She's a very affectionate child already, so we cant be doing too much wrong I guess. When playing with other babies she leans her head against them - as if to cuddle. Its soooo sweet.
But I too dislike seeing parents talk really badly to their kids - especially swearing AT them (as opposed to swearing around them) even in a shop we were never yelled at as kids. My mum used to put this vice grip around our arms and escort us to the car. We wouldbe bawling, but mum didn't look like a bad mum.

I guess at the end of the day we can say that we would never be like that, and how bad it is - but we cant really judge other parents? I mean - each generation likes to improve from the one before I think, and maybe these peoples parents were even worse - so they think they are doing much better.
Does that make sense? Also - its hard to know everyone's circumstances, and while yes hitting and swearing are unacceptable in our worlds, we are the lucky ones to know that.

Sorry to sound so PC - but sometimes we need to walk in others shoes before we really know why they act the way they do. Its so sad to see kids in not as supportive environments, so I understand why you felt down Cailin.
Fi