Thanks ladies for all your replies.

I've decided I will work on the gradual weaning first with might help the sleep as we go. I've been noting down when she actually feeds as she has always just fed whenever she wanted. We have dropped the first out of bed feed, which isn't a biggy as she usually has a feed in bed just before she wakes up and then miss grumpy (so not a morning baby) would want another cuddle/feed once she was up. It has been exhuasting but I think we have avoided this one for 2-3 days! Mainly just keeping her busy, everytime she asks for it I'm up and offering her something else to keep her distracted.

I really think it is more of a comfort/boredom issue with her than any need for nouishment. Basically she will feed at night, in the morning as she wakes, after she got out of bed and at least 2-3 times during the day - mostly after we have come inside from a car trip or I have been away and then again at night after dinner and again before bed.

Rosehip fairy - yep DH is putting her to sleep at the mmoment but he works shifts most nights and isn't here but I'm hoping we can wipe that feed/sleep assosiation while he is on holidays at xmas

Ozzie - thanks, yes I have tried explaining to her but she gets so terribly upset and she says pleeeeeeesssseee in the cutest little way. I have felt really bad denying her up until now as I know there is a special bond between breastfeeding but I think now there are some times (like in the middle of the day) when she is simply feeding out of boredom. These are the ones I'm going to start saying no to (and sticking with it despite the pleeeaassee) Man, I can't magine BF while pg I couldn't even stand wearing a bra! Well down to you. Please Oskar handled it so well!

mgm - that''s funny as Ari will often try and walk off/play while still BF so she often feeds in those positions if I let her :-) but it is a good idea that I hadn't thought of - thanks

mum3girls - pleased I'm not the only one. Don't you just treasure those rare moments when they do sleep through we've had 4 snce she was born! And yes I'm counting!