Just wanted to pop in and share our sucesses and our backtracking so far...

sleeping - Ari now sleeps in her own bed (not that was such a big deal but it has cut down the night feeding) and only wakes once a night! TBH I don't really know what I did except start lying down with her in her toddler bed to settle. Sometimes giving her a feed if she insisted and then getting up (when I woke up :-) and crawling back to my bed.

Feeding - as Ari is waking in her own bed it is a lot easier to offer her b'fast as soon as she wakes up - (oh she has also started going potty first up in the morning too! v. exciting)

She is a lot more understanding about me saying "no more" or "none left/all gone" and we don't have the HUGE tantrums we used to. She still sometimes gets a little upset but more rrecently just gets up and goes and gets her sippy cup or askes for something to eat! Again I really don't know how we got here, just persistance and some bribery at the very beginning when I would offer her her favourite food/drink if she would stop having a breastfeed and get down.

Thank you so much for all your help and comments and fingers crossed for all of us.