Bah! Just ignore her hun. You are doing what you think is best and that's all that matters. We co-sleep here too, ds still feeds a few times at night and it's just easier on me and him to have him next to me so we both hardly wake up at all.
Just ignore her, and try and keep your distance from her in future (the same thing I try and do to deal with my MIL!)
ETA (after reading Snacks post)- I'm so lucky, my MG is fantastic... they are things some of the ohter mum's do that I don't neccessarily agree with, and I'm sure some of them feel the same way about me, but everyone just keeps that to themselves. I love it. It's my favorite part of the week
Last edited by Lolli; August 16th, 2008 at 03:14 PM.
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I once read something (I think in Kaz Cooke's Up The Duff), that basically said that the comments other people make are about THEM not you.
So if someone says 'they shouldn't still be breastfeeding', that's because THEY choose not to breastfeed at that age, and are looking to validate their choice.
Or if someone says 'your child will still be in your bed at 7', that's because THEY don't understand your reasons for co-sleeping, and THEY don't co-sleep.
Of course, if someone says 'you're doing a good job', then THEY are absolutely right, don't think about it any further. :P
I find that remembering that has helped me heaps, when someone criticises me, I just remember that the comment reflects on them. Perhaps they're insecure, perhaps they're less educated, perhaps their situation is different, perhaps they're just nasty. Either way, none of that reflects badly on YOUR parenting.
In the long run, when your kids turn out great, she's going to see that all the issues she had with your parenting probably weren't issues at all!
(And I agree with the others, if her comments are getting you down, tell her that you've thought long and hard about your parenting decisions, and just because they're different doesn't mean they're wrong.)
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