What do you do instead of smacking?

[rufalina]

There are some good suggestions in this thread. THanks...

I have just started using the time out method similar to Lady Zaidie. I sit with DS and hold his hands and let him know why he is there, and we count to ten, and then he can get up and play. I start counting again if he kicks or trys to get up... and he is getting better with this. I then distract when I let him back up, so we hopefully dont get a repeat of the behaviour. But I like the idea of asking him why he did it... Will start that... Although he might be a bit little fir this yet... But I will try.

I also remove toys if things continue to get out of control... Like if he continues to throw cars, they go away and he gets them back the nest day. Not really sure if that solves anything, except my anger at him, and then I can deal better... But it is so hard dealing with this with a newborn... I have been making a huge effort to give DS1 good time alone every day, and I think that helps too...

Fig, thanks for starting this, and good work on getting an improvement! Hope it continues. xo

[sunshine_sieben]

Rufalina, I think it is a little unfair to call her LAZY zadie

I also do take toys away, if DD does something inappropriate with them (ie, throwing, banging) and doesn't react to my warnings. i also do this when she has a friend over and they fight over a toy. if you can't take turns, nobody can have it.
No idea if that works, but at least it stops the unwanted behaviour.

Fig, it is not a problem with my DD not understanding about feelings. It is just that when I put her in time out/in or otherwise tell her off, she gets so worked up, that she doesn't really listen.

2 year olds are soooo bloody stubborn Almost as stubborn as i am...

[rufalina]

Oopsies.... Sorry hun... that is what you get for FAK...