Mel the first few times we did it (let DS fall asleep on the lounge) were out of sheer, exasperated exhaustion. Our situation was pretty much exactly what your's is now. But now were all addicted and wouldn’t have it any other way. DS and DH play and talk together, everything is so peaceful. I’m free to potter around doing washing, cleaning the kitchen (and BB too of course) and DD’s sleep is uninterrupted. But I still feel really weird, like I’m confessing to doing something bad, even though I know it’s not. It’s calm, it’s peaceful and it works for us. Anyway, I just wanted to share my experience with you. I probably haven’t helped at all though.