The last few weeks DD hasn't been sleeping very well so most nights she has ended up in our bed.
DF told me last night that he hates it and it needs to stop because she needs to learn to sleep in her bed and that she is manipulating me because she'll fuss in her cot but as soon as she is in our bed settles down fairly quickly and goes to sleep.

I don't know why he hates it so much, he made it seem like our relationship would break down all because she is sleeping in our bed all the time. Ok maybe he doesn't get enough horizontal dancing time, but that's not because she's in our bed! It's usually around midnight that she comes in so plenty of time before for other stuff, normally it's because I'm so tired I just want to go to sleep or lately he has been out late with work.

I said to him what would you rather, both DD & I being tired and cranky all the time because we aren't getting enough sleep or her being in our bed but we're all happy and getting sufficient sleep. I don't think I got an answer to that... he won't help trying to get her back to sleep in her bed and he won't get up to her in the morning so I can sleep in a bit, so i don't know how he can expect me to do all that and still function properly and not be cranky!

Hopefully her non-sleeping phase will be over soon and we can all get back to normal