4 yr old birthday party and childcare invites

[Traveller]

For a 4 year old I would personally limit the number of invitations to only 4 - 6 children. Not only does this make a less stressful party but it also means that there is not such an obvious leaving out of only a few kids. If inviting the majority I would be tempted to invite all kids though, I don't think it is nice to leave out only a couple of kids.

[*Ang*]

If inviting the majority I would be tempted to invite all kids though, I don't think it is nice to leave out only a couple of kids.

Yeah that!

To exclude only a couple would also be seen to be mean. Sometimes a child's perception of mean and nasty is completely different to an adult's. I can remember a few years ago DD coming home saying a classmate was being "mean" to her, when I delved into it some more I discovered it was simply because this child had stepped on her heels when lining up!

[Phteven]

I agree with Trav. Either invite them all or invite a handful.

ETA - and yes to *Ang*'s comment re meanness. Mean can be very subjective at that age. Generally when DS complains about another child being mean he means that they wouldn't play Harry Potter when he asked them to or something equally inoffensive. There are feral 4 year olds but I think it is better to delve into the issue than just accept 'mean' at face value.