Dh is an only child. Him and mil appear to thrive on opening presents. He even makes me wrap little things sperately so it seems like there re lots of presents. They've never been any different.
This Xmas though there will be heaps of us, all my family and kids plus his family.
I suggested this yr we buy presents for the kids and do a secret Santa for the adults for a few reasons a) it'll be cheaper b) it tales the pressure of people buying for others they may not know c) people won't feel obliged or expect presents from others.
But apparently it's a crap idea. Dh and mil would rather just buy for everyone (even though no one can really afford it). Dh's comments were 'how boring will that be, we open one present and they day is over' and others to the same effect.
I feel Xmas is about the kids and spending it together as a family. TBH I really just want to say to everyone I do t want presents. I don't need more junk that will sit around the house that I don't need.
I don't think I can change thier minds without yet again getting someone's nose out of joint.

What do others do? Am I being unreasonable? I really at the moment am liking the idea of saying Ido t want anything, even just to make my point. That Xmas is t about presents and it'll be as good as you make it.