Do you make sure kids are equal at big family events?

[Astrolady]

We are going to a friends on the 27th to present swap between the kids. She said 'oh you don't have to buy anything for xxx" who is her 16yr old son. I did anyway because I wouldn't want to be the only kid not opening something that day.

[*Efjay*]

Can you leave the excess of presents that are for your own kids till you are home & left for after the cousins are gone? I think its reasonable to try and make sure everyone is opening a set amount of things when you are all together but I don't think what you buy for your own children should be limited by what the parents of the cousins buy for them KWIM.

[chody47]

Are you doing all your presents at your Mums? I ask because if its just a few cant you all agree just to bring a couple of pressies for each child there? Whilst I don't think it's fair for one child to have one or two pressies, and others to have heaps, I was taught from a young age that different things cost different amounts, so whilst I may not have as many, there could be similar dollar value..... Depending on the age of all the kids, they may understand that...

[HotI]

i don't do equal presents for my kids. My little one doesn't need much this year, my older one does and so she is getting more things and more in financial terms too. i don't feel the need to buy extra (unneccessary?) things for DS just to make it equal. The year he is going to kinder etc, he will probably get more than dd.

[wysiwyg]

i don't do equal presents for my kids. My little one doesn't need much this year, my older one does and so she is getting more things and more in financial terms too. i don't feel the need to buy extra (unneccessary?) things for DS just to make it equal. The year he is going to kinder etc, he will probably get more than dd.

Same here - I don't think it is necessary to be equal in number or in financial.