i have an ideal Christmas, and what we actually have lol

Ideal Christmas - decorate the house (starting soon) - lights, huge tree, deco's everywhere. Santa photo for DD if we can manage it.
depending on DD's fascination with the lights, we'll go and look at some of the places here in town (some people go all out with yards you're encouraged to go into, fake snow etc)
Christmas Eve we will be here at home. Sopdet is coming over late, Santa will visit, we may have some stuff to assemble out in the yard, so we'll chill once DD goes to bed
Get up Christmas morning and let DD have some of her presents - not sure if she'll get all of them at once
Lunch with my family at my brothers house. (mum, dad, aunt, us, bro's family) - everyone happy and sharing the work
we do a family KK for the adults - the kids are open slather for people to buy for
after lunch, we'll likely head to the town we've just moved from to catch up with DH's bestie for a few drinks and let DD run wild in their back yard to burn off some energy

Actual Christmas - all that - except for the "everyone happy and sharing the work" - my bro has become a selfish twit lately. last Christmas was our turn to host Christmas so we decided rather than put all expense/work on one family (we had a 7 month old!) we'd divide the work, and just heat and eat kinda thing. my bro paid for stuff, but did bugger all - he turned up at nearly 1 (lunch was being timed for 1) with COLD food and we had to microwave it rather than cooking in the oven as it should have been. he then took the bulk of the leftovers (WE were the ones with zero income at the time) because "we're going away with friends, we can feed everyone". i think for so long they were the only one with kidsthey gott used to everything revolving around them and hate it that DD is here now and pedople expect them to pull their heads out of their butts and be a bit fairer!