Even tho Santa will be in our house we still don't just focus on him, we also include Jesus as we were included as kids and yes definately family is huge one always has been for us.
We don't spend alot money, rules in our family is presents only for the kids and we don't spend huge amounts either.
I think its just a matter of finding a nice balance between the real meaning of xmas plus all the magic and imagination that comes with it also. I admit I still get excited and feel all the old feelings from my kiddy days when I see decos set up and trees and I'm still dreaming of having a white xmas!