Family on our honeymoon! (xmas time) what you think?

[Shanti]

Hi girls,

DF and I are getting married end of Sept, and then over the christmas period we'll be getting time off from our business (only time we can take off!) to go on our belated honeymoon! We've booked 8 nights away in a private beach house (3brm with spa on deck!!).... and we are very much looking forward to it! :P

DF's parents have been talking about coming up to spend xmas lunch with us on the day (xmas day) and maybe even staying the night! I'm not sure if they are joking or not. I have a very close relationship with my in-laws, they're great... but I am just not really comfortable with seeing other family whilst we are on our honeymoon - is that fair enough?! LOL... I mean, we haven't invited them or anything... but also, being xmas time, it's kinda expected that you spend time with your loved ones...
DF has been joking around and saying "oh i might invite grandad down too etc etc" and I'm like "thats fine but only xmas lunch!! thats IT!!!" and I don't want anyone to stay over either... it's kinda like our little honeymoon "privacy" retreat that we deserve to have together and away from others....

Anyway, what i'm asking is what would you girls do? Would you just welcome them for xmas day lunch only (if they ask that is) but do not ask them to stay the night? I mean they should be able to understand that and think " hey, its their honeymoon lets not impose!!!!!". I even said to DF, let's have a xmas lunch with EVERYONE a week before we go away!!! That way, we can do the whole family thing blah blah...

Has anyone else had a honeymoon away at Christmas time? it's a bad time of the year for one i reckon!!! LOL I'm not as excited as i should be about it because i am anxious about family turning up!!!
(dont get me wrong, i LOVE my in-laws and DF's family, we all get on so well, they are like my own family, but i dont even want my family to be there either!!!!)
Don't get me wrong, LOOOVE christmas and LOOOVE family gatherings but this is different, we only get 1 honeymoon LOL

[C~Q]

No no nooooo!!! Let them come for lunch but not to stay...hell no! It's your honeymoon and you should spend it how you want to - you'll only have one first honeymoon!!!

[Ginger]

i really like your idea of having a big xmas lunch at home before you go on the honeymoon. i wouldn't want them to come on my honeymoon at all. that's your special time...

[sonya1]

we went to qld for the christmas period and though the situation is completely different to yours, we had christmas before we left...

its your honeymoon. you only get so much time off when you have a business. keep the whole time to yourselves and either celebrate a family xmas before or after your honeymoon. its also your first xmas as man and wife - that is something special. personally i would want to sleep in, and have a romantic chrissy by ourselves.

good luck..

[Fruitloop]

If you can somehow wrangle it, I'd be full steam ahead for the Christmas lunch a week before. It's your honeymoon, and given you have a great relationship with your ILs, I'm sure they'd understand that you wanted 'alone' time with you and DH. I'd be afraid that if there was an invite for lunch, that it could snowball into an even bigger gathering and then potentially an overnight thing. *hugs* Good luck on working out something that you are happy with!

[Pandora]

Yep, I'd do christmas lunch before you go.
A lot of families do that anyway - we have my mums familys Christmas lunch the week before Christmas, otherwise its just too hectic.

[mrsr]

I agree with some of the others...have your Xmas lunch before you leave. If I had to contend with my in-laws or family on my honeymoon, I would not have enjoyed it at all...that time is about you and your new spouse.

[Shanti]

thanks girls... now I just need the support of DF... he's too worried about pleasing his family. I say bugger them, lets look after "us" as that's all that matters. esp in this case. unless him and his parents are just having me on and its all a joke, but seriously, i don't want anyone there except the two of us. PLUS it's going to be the last time we go away as a couple before we have a baby... another thing, it will be our first time as a married couple at xmas (like one of you said)
yeah i think i'll start organising a xmas lunch at our house the weekend before, that way keeps everyone happy. honestly, does xmas one week early really make a difference? after all, we are all adults, no children involved!!!
thanks girls...

[visitor1]

Id have xmaz before u go....

But then again.. its only one day and 1 night....i think id like to have my family stay even if it was my honeymoon....maybe im just weird...my hubby means alot.. but he knows my family means alot too... and he'd love the idea.

[maddysmummy]

have xmas before you go!! its your honeymoon and time to enjoy each other and relax!! look after you!

[Shanti]

thanks girls...
DF and I had a chat about it tonight and DF told me that he doesn't want the entire family over, if any, just his mum and dad but they can't stay, he doesnt want them to stay the night. so if they DO end up coming up, then it will just be for couple of hrs... i dont see the point really when they can see us the weekend before for early xmas lunch with everyone... i think spending xmas with them all, next year, will probably be more important anyway as we'll have a baby by then (if all goes to plan and we conceive within few months hehe)....
DF's parents always respect us and give us our space so they know, and if they do come over to see us it would probably be lunch at a tavern or cafe somewhere anyway so we could meet them out rather than them coming to see us at the house we're renting... that sounds better doesnt it?!? that way they aren't invading "our" space KWIM?!?!?
:P