thanks girls...
DF and I had a chat about it tonight and DF told me that he doesn't want the entire family over, if any, just his mum and dad but they can't stay, he doesnt want them to stay the night. so if they DO end up coming up, then it will just be for couple of hrs... i dont see the point really when they can see us the weekend before for early xmas lunch with everyone... i think spending xmas with them all, next year, will probably be more important anyway as we'll have a baby by then (if all goes to plan and we conceive within few months hehe)....
DF's parents always respect us and give us our space so they know, and if they do come over to see us it would probably be lunch at a tavern or cafe somewhere anyway so we could meet them out rather than them coming to see us at the house we're renting... that sounds better doesnt it?!? that way they aren't invading "our" space KWIM?!?!?
:P