Anyone else have this problem?

[westy]

Oh i'm another one who will quite happily go and spend a few hundred on the kids or DH but always think twice sometimes three times before i will buy something for myself ....actually last time my DH told me to go buy myself some new clothes/bra's etc as i was long over due. i think for me i fee lquilty because i dont feel i contribute to the household as far as bringing in or earning $$$$ go as i am a full time sahm and feel i shouldn't be spending all that money on me...iywikm?

[Salsa]

i think for me i fee lquilty because i dont feel i contribute to the household as far as bringing in or earning $$$$ go as i am a full time sahm and feel i shouldn't be spending all that money on me...iywikm?

Yup, I feel bad about not bringing in any of the cash to pay for stuff for myself.

[mrsmac]

Yup, I feel bad about not bringing in any of the cash to pay for stuff for myself.

I work full time and actually earn a lot more than DH and I still feel guilty!

[Jellyfish]

Yup, I feel bad about not bringing in any of the cash to pay for stuff for myself.

This is exactly how I feel. Even my partner was only able to convince me to buy a Nappy Bag when I said it could be my Mother's Day gift. I don't even really feel comfortable buying things for DD -- I wanted a sling for when I do quick trips to the supermarket, previously I have just been holding her and the basket and trying to make it work. It really is something we could use/need and we can afford it easily but I feel so guilty still -- my partner had to order it while I was sleeping because I refused to let him buy it.

It just doesn't feel like the money is ours and it is hard going from having my own job and source of income to relying on his. I know I am providing by taking care of our newborn but I just have a lot of trouble with it all still.

[Indadhanu]

YEP! I actually bit the bullet and spent money on Hot Milk stuff last month (after not having ANY new undies since Jazz was born!) and I felt so guilty I threw up. I also walk around the shops with things I want, and then put them back before I leave. I won $60 worth of Big W vouchers (yeah, not THAT much) and I let Shel spend it on her and Jazz... I'd love to be able to spend on me but I just feel selfish, I'd rather know Shel and Jazz get what they need/want.

[Pretty Butterfly]

I dont think I could name the last thing I bought myself....

The last time I went to a hairdresser, I was pregnant with my 11 yr old..I have reused my maternity gear over and over..my shoes are all years old... my "youngest" shoes are 8 yrs old!!

I just splurged yesterday, (Ad made me) on a winter coat. $38. I still feel sick. But my old.. I left home with!!! At 18!!!

But hey, if the kids need mcn, clothes, shoes etc... always first on the list.

And to be honest, it doesn't bother me. I can manage to still look hot as, Just in 90's gear!!!

[AnyDream]

Welcome to motherhood babe. I think you've just explained the reason why mothers get slippers and PJs for mothers day but dads get golf clubs and power tools...LOL.

DD1 had $85 of new winter gear the other day...I'm still wearing my mat bras (DD2 is 18 mths old) .

[Janie]

Oh gosh, you're all so good! I am definitely more tightfisted with myself since having DS, alot more in fact, but if I need something, and no one else is going to miss out, then I buy it for myself. I don't have my hair done every six weeks anymore, but more like every 3-4 months. I'm not that selfless that I can go without everything . Although buying new things is a real treat for me these days, and it's only what I really need, TBH I think it would make me quite depressed and unhappy if I never ever had anything nice and new.

Sammi, you need to justify it for yourself........think of what you're saving in car costs by walking the boys to school.......more than it would cost for a good pair of shoes I bet! If you're doing that much walking you need good support . Do you want me to come up with more reasons???

[Tinks]

YEP!! My hair badly needs doing, it's disgusting. I need a new pair of shoes for work but the kids also need new shoes so mine will have to wait