buying a house you and your partner don't agree on

[Chocaholic]

Wow, he actually bought a house without you agreeing to it. That is not right.

Since he has done that, it is his responsibility to fix it so you feel safe. Make a list and don't budge.

[mummaofchaz]

Yep we had discussed this house and another potential one we'd found in a totally different suburb but couldn't decide out of the two although I told him I really didn't want the one he bought. I waited around the following day for a call to see if he'd made an offer on the first house but he didn't call so I tried calling him late arvo at work and that's when he said he'd put an offer on the second house. I was livid and blurted out all my concerns again but he slithered out of it by saying he was at work and we'll talk about it that night.

He said he'll put some sort of lattice extender panels along the side fence, change locks, fix the gate so it doesn't fall down, I said I wanted another dog and he kinda considered it but I know when the time comes to get one he'll find some sort of excuse not to and he may put a security alarm in but he's still researching them.

He said if I still felt uncomfortable or unsafe there after a month or so we can move into a rental or sell it but I know he'll change his attitude on that if it happened.