Absolutely, wysiwyg.

This Christmas, we have actively told family that for the DSs, we would prefer they did not get gifts. They have too much stuff already - and yes, that includes craft supplies, a variety of indoor and outdoor toys, clothes, movies, books, etc. Of course there's things that they don't have which they would like. But they don't need it.

So what we have suggested proactively is that from immediate family (as we don't expect prezzies from anyone much else, other than KK!) is that they take the DSs on an excursion. Either the DSs together or separately - totally up to the giver.

We've made suggestions, and said dates that the boys will be available (based on other activities DH and have planned) and we are completely open to other ideas.

From my parents, the DSs are getting a friends of the zoo pass, and they will be coming for the first trip and bringing a picnic.

Other activities we've suggested range in cost from basically free (a day at the beach) to pricier (Pollywoodside) and inbetween (Scienceworks or the farm).

DS2 may not remember the trip - but he also won't remember the 3D chalk and new truck. DS1 will I suspect remember the trip, and am much more interested in him having an enormous storehouse of wonderful and happy memories with people who love him, and invest time into him when they can. Not just stuff.

My sister was a bit upset at the thought of my DSs not having anything to open, when the nephews are opening their gifts - so I offered (and she happily accepted) to hand over some toys in a tub not out right now, for her to wrap. I don't think the DSs will cotton on (or mind) - and everyone is happy. I'm not against stuff - just excess, and clutter.

I am under the impression that the PIL aren't taken by the idea - but we're not going to press the point further - my 3 siblings and parents are a good start!!

But if it works well, wee might do it again next year!

DH and my Christmas prezzies from parents have for the past several years gone towards a nice dinner out (JOY!!!) or an expensive specialist book or a trip to Gold Class ... this year, I'm tempted to spend it on a cleaner from the ASRC ... That will help to get rid of some clutter, and to not get more!!

This isn't something I think everyone should do.

But consider it, if you're feeling overwhelmed at another Christmas of stuff and clutter.