Wow, a lot of this thread is muddled up with repliers arguging with each other - this is NOT helpful for people who actually are interested in the answers to Fruit Tingles questions. I think some members need to chill out, apparent from her posts Fruit Tingles is a big girl capable of taking care of herself and doesn't need others "sticking up for her" - I know this is a bit of a rant but believe me, if you read through this thread you would be annoyed having to read petty arguing posts in between the 'answering the question' posts.
So what I actually wanted to say was, I am in a very similar situation to you FT, I am 500km from a major city and 100km from a major hospital. I have had 2 cs and a vba2c, I cannot fathom driving 100km in labour, also possibly with 3 kids at any time of day or night. I want this one's big sisters and brother to be there when he/she arrives, not an hour away. So far a mw for a hb is not an option and I so wanted that, now I am considering my lay birth assistant options, no go so far.
I have let dh know I am not happy, he thinks a 1 hr drive will be fine (he forgets all the cursing from the last drive, which was still a 40 min peak hr traffic drive in the city WITH a doula holding my hips all the way there! And NO kids) I do know a lady who had an unplanned hb and dh was the one who kept it all okay. I just don't think I could get my head around dh being the one 'in charge'???
Given the long drive option we have a baby kit, bulb suction, clamps, sharp scissors and fresh linen etc, also some large garbage bags and a comfy blanket to line the back of the 4wd where I will be on hands and knees if this damn drive is the only option left.
The just in case kit and car protection are the only items we have so far, in terms of baby knowledge dh knows noiught and I am a nurse although I will need to brush up on the new baby side of things.
I would recommend watching births where interventions were needed for sticky shoulders, cords around neck etc. You can't get dh to be a mw overnight but being aware and mentally prepared would have to be better than nothing right?
I can't think of anything else we've talked about yet, I still have ages to go, I do hope things go smoothly for you and I look forward to reading your birth story!
hI Studnet mum! we are almost due at the same time. I am in the same place as you! DH delivered my last bub on his own as i only had a 10min labour, we had planned a HB with MW! LOL so it doesnt really matter that there is a hospital only 20minsw away for me! It was full on being on our own but we cant decide this tiime if we really only just want to be on our own this time! it is tiotally different for you as you are so far away and no MW. The vbac thing could freak others out to! I hope you get the birth you want! Great that you have along time to plan and think things thru. I think thats why DH and i delt with things so well last time as we had thought from day one we would probably be on our own. I look forward to talking to you more in the next few months! pity we arent in the same belly buddies! Maybe baby buddies
FT; I think staying at home for as long as possible is a great idea. With DS I was induced and had a very traumatic birth. With DD I stayed home as long as I felt I could handle it, when I got to hospital I was almost 8cms. DD was born 90 minutes after we arrived at the hospital. DS was with us for the birth. The hospital had a early discharge program so we went home 6 hours after DD was born. It all just went perfectly. I plan to stay home as long as possible with this one has well. My midwife has told me to call her if things happen too quickly to make it to the hospital. I don't know what she would but.
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