Homebirth General Discussion #12

[Cassius2]

When you talk about your amazing Homebirth, you're getting up on your high horse. You're lauding it over everyone else and acting superior. They don't want to hear you didn't need drugs when they had an epidural, didn't tear with your 10 pounder when they had an episiotomy with their 6lb baby, breastfed easily while their baby was fed formula when they were in recovery.

you hit it on the head there hahaha. I actually do think that others believe that women who HB are all self-obsessed (why risk the baby????!!!) weirdos that love pain (what? no pain relief????!!!!) and therefore are nothing like them. they dont understand that the absolute rush you get when you have a baby at home is just frikkin' EARTH MOVINGLY awesome. gosh, if they could bottle that feeling up and sell it....and TBH i just dont think you get that same kind of high in an out of home setting. you might get pretty darn close but the elements are not perfectly harmonised ITMS (and here i am talking about a HB that is done in a home that brings you peace and safety).

What blows my mind away is that they (others) just DONT get it. Of course I feel that my births were the most amazing births in the whole entire world. Of course i feel that there will never be another experience as amazing as that.

I feel happy for them that they had a great birth and loved it. but sheesh, just because you had a nice midwife and only got two stitches is not IMHO setting the bar high in terms of awesomeness. but i have to admit that i am now saying this from a place of frustration, simply because I havent been heard. it's childish, but there it is.

HSM: thanks babe you are so right. i just need an IRL group. thankfully my midwife group holds a get together once a month from now on so hopefully i can find a space there to feel free to chat and share with other HBers

Jenn: i am the same! i love being around my midwives! it brings me peace and happiness to see them and share our lives together and to have my girls grow up with them in their lives. very special.

[Cricket]

I think some people also think that homebirth stories are going to include bizarre details that they just don't want to hear. I've had that feeling before. I think some people feel like having a baby at home is like peeing in your living room. You just don't do that. It's gross and messy, etc...
And, there's probably some truth to the fact that they expect your story is going to "one-up" every one else's, and no one likes that either.
Oh well. There will hopefully be other chances to slip in a word or two about the benefits, safety, and joy of a homebirth.