I'd love to have the midwife I had with DD3 and 4. Unfortunately, she broke her ankle badly just before I was expecting DS, and after her time off, switched to part-time work in a neighbouring practice. She was my favourite - experienced, capable, calm, and visits with her were always like a visit with a friend - lots of chatting about anything and everything, no feeling of being rushed, and lots of info and stories to share. My midwife with DS made me crazy, but the practice was very full and scrambling to fit me in, so I couldn't switch. She said the oddest things and was always second guessing herself. In the end, she knew what to do to deliver DS who was in a difficult position (brow presentation posterior) and I was thankful for that, but we never did click at all. My current midwife, who I also had for my last pregnancy, is closer to the first one - she's been practicing for ages. She worked across the border before midwifery was licensed in our province, and has lots of experience. I don't get quite the same friendly vibe from her as with my first midwife, but we get along pretty well. I was a little annoyed with her at my last birth though, because she kept wanting me to get out of the water! She wouldn't check me or break my water in the bath, (which had been done in previous deliveries at my request) and she was insistent on my moving into a different position for delivery, (which wasn't a problem before) and she was very hesitant to let me deliver the placenta in the bath. (in the end it came so fast, I was in the bath anyways, but had to get out immediately afterwards.) Maybe these are all things that kept me safer, and the other midwives were being a little sloppy - who knows? I also remember begging her to tell me how much longer it would be before I was done (must have been transitioning - it was tough at that point!) and she said "well.... you're not going as fast as I thought...." which was not a bad answer, but it made me feel like I was disappointing people, and that I should be going faster, and that it was going to be a long time yet, etc. (DD was born about 2hr after they arrived, if I remember correctly) Funny how those little things stick with you, eh? All in all though, I am happy to have her taking care of us during this pregnancy. She is doing a job-share with another younger midwife who I've met a couple times, and she seems fine. Common sense and down-to-earth. She may or may not be at this birth, depending on when I deliver. And then I have a second midwife who I like pretty well. She's the one who gave me all the info on GBS, and I really appreciate that! She will most likely be there as well.
She was my favourite - experienced, capable, calm, and visits with her were always like a visit with a friend - lots of chatting about anything and everything, no feeling of being rushed, and lots of info and stories to share.
My midwife with DS made me crazy, but the practice was very full and scrambling to fit me in, so I couldn't switch. She said the oddest things and was always second guessing herself. In the end, she knew what to do to deliver DS who was in a difficult position (brow presentation posterior) and I was thankful for that, but we never did click at all. My current midwife, who I also had for my last pregnancy, is closer to the first one - she's been practicing for ages. She worked across the border before midwifery was licensed in our province, and has lots of experience. I don't get quite the same friendly vibe from her as with my first midwife, but we get along pretty well. I was a little annoyed with her at my last birth though, because she kept wanting me to get out of the water! She wouldn't check me or break my water in the bath, (which had been done in previous deliveries at my request) and she was insistent on my moving into a different position for delivery, (which wasn't a problem before) and she was very hesitant to let me deliver the placenta in the bath. (in the end it came so fast, I was in the bath anyways, but had to get out immediately afterwards.) Maybe these are all things that kept me safer, and the other midwives were being a little sloppy - who knows? I also remember begging her to tell me how much longer it would be before I was done (must have been transitioning - it was tough at that point!) and she said "well.... you're not going as fast as I thought...." which was not a bad answer, but it made me feel like I was disappointing people, and that I should be going faster, and that it was going to be a long time yet, etc. (DD was born about 2hr after they arrived, if I remember correctly) Funny how those little things stick with you, eh? All in all though, I am happy to have her taking care of us during this pregnancy. She is doing a job-share with another younger midwife who I've met a couple times, and she seems fine. Common sense and down-to-earth. She may or may not be at this birth, depending on when I deliver. And then I have a second midwife who I like pretty well. She's the one who gave me all the info on GBS, and I really appreciate that! She will most likely be there as well.
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