Homebirth General Discussion #14

[TeniBear]

You're only allowed if you share, I should've specified

[e_p]

That's really strange about the student mw thing. I was going to have one when I planned on using government funded hb but when I changed to IM the student wasn't allowed to attend. Maybe it's a state to state thing or different universities?

Definitely depends on the course/Uni. At the Homebirth Conference last year, there was a final year midwifery student who had surveyed student midwifes across the country with regards to homebirth. Some courses have outright banned students from attending any homebirths unless they are hospital based, even in their 'own time'. Others only allow students to attend a homebirth if there is a registered midwife present.

[Jennifer13]

Teni, you won't feel like BBQ shapes, but def steal her coke.

Not sure what the student rules are here. My m/w is now teaching at UNSW, I'll ask her. I don't think I'd want one there, for everyone else's sake more than mine. I could give birth in front of a stadium full of people as long as they left me alone. But there'll be enough ppl here and I don't want the girls and DP to have to deal with someone they don't know very well (if at all) in our house then.

[Arcadia]

Em!!! Please, please don't go!

Just stay for this thread. It's so hard to find like-minded women. We need people like you.

[Arcadia]

Double pleading now.

[Cricket]

Em - hope you can send some updates from time to time and let us know how things are going!

Doing well here. Celebrating DDs first birthday today, and re-read her birth story. Thankful that I've been a lot less sore thus far through this pregnancy! Maybe it's a boy thing. My pregnancy with DS was also very easy. Bought a really soft little blue blanket for the new bean yesterday. I'm a huge sucker for soft blankies!

[HotI]

Not sure what the student rules are here. My m/w is now teaching at UNSW, I'll ask her. I don't think I'd want one there, for everyone else's sake more than mine. I could give birth in front of a stadium full of people as long as they left me alone. But there'll be enough ppl here and I don't want the girls and DP to have to deal with someone they don't know very well (if at all) in our house then.

My student followed me through the pregnancy, so we knew her as well, or better, than our midwife. I chose her specifically though, because i read an article on her where she discussed previous study and interests. When we met up for coffee to see if we liked each other, we clicked straight away and then i found out that some of her babies had been born at home too. At the birth, she arrived before my midwife and was just awesome.

I had a student 1st time (to help her out, plus get a bit of consistency in 'caregivers') and wasn't planning to 2nd time around, but the universe had different plans. I wasn't really doing it for her the student 2n time around, i liked her, i liked the way she questioned things and made me think, i loved her support. When my placenta took a long time, and i had cervical shock, i was really happy for DS to be cuddled by the student.

Stay around Eenie. Take a short break if you need it, but come back again.

[Cassius2]

Oh Eenee 2 years??!!! that's mega long...I'll have had like, 2 more babies since then....omg. joking...don't tell my DH i just said that

I'll PM PZ.

Cricket: i am about to meet a lady in the city...for a blanket so i can relate to your blanket love! hope your DDs birthday was fabulous and full of lovely memories xx

Jen: my student midwife came to every appt, so in a way i knew her quite well...and i also put the proviso that she was not automatically invited to the birth. but as the pregnancy went on, i agreed. I figured that in our case she was super cool...live a street away...her girls go to my girls school hahaha, and the fact that she had her heart being set on being an IM (which she is now!).

[Eenee]

Thanks, I was upset and angry last night not sure where I pulled 2years from lol. But I do need a break.

[TeniBear]

My midwives recommend getting two buckets, I assume to top up the pool with hot water... I've already bought eight Supercheap Auto were having a sale last week, so they were only 50c each. Thought I might as well go overboard rather than be caught out with not enough I'm trying to work through their list, get as much as I can slowly so I don't have to run out and buy everything towards the end. I know I'm leaving myself with nothing to do in November/December, but it makes me feel like I'm actually being productive in the boring early stages... I've already got my blessingway invitations, that's how bad I am

[Cassius2]

I think it's wonderful Teni! That is the big regret for my last pregnancy...we were faffing about overseas for most of it and so by the time I got back i found it really hard to get in the groove and organise a blessingway... then i went into preterm labour and got all my mojo ruined and just didnt get around to doing it. I feel that i didnt respect the pregnancy journey enough i do regret that.

[Jennifer13]

Oh Em. Can you just hang around this thread for two years instead? Only half joking...

[Jennifer13]

Oooooo looky, looky...!

23/05/2013 Ladybirdflies welcomes a very lucky.......

[Jennifer13]

Congrats Rubysgoes! I know exactly what you mean. You're sitting around afterwards at home having the most ordinary of days. That's actually what I was looking forward to after DD2. Just another day in our family, one of the most eventful but at the same time just like any other. It's hard to describe isn't it? So glad it all went well!

I think I've decided on my birth team, but need to talk to DP. The only difficulty will be where to put my sister and my niece if they stay!

[Mum2twoBoys]

Congratulations on the totally uneventful, and normal home birth rubyshoes. Sounds wonderfully blissful. How nice to feel totally comfortable and at home after delivering your baby.

[meow]

Congratulations rubyshoes!!! I LOVE homebirth! I felt the same after mine. It's just a birth people. No big deal. I think you are able to really connect with the simpleness and eternity of the female experience and it feels so wonderfully normal. But it is also a big deal and people do love a homebirth story too. You rock!

[Cassius2]

Congrats Rubyredshoes!!! Gorgeous bubba!

And you are so so right....the most incredible and normal moment lol! i love that you pop a baby out and then hear the neighbour hanging out the washing or whatnot lol. so cool.

[Jennifer13]

I get my fill of m/w love tomorrow at our homebirth group get together. It's my monthly fix!

Guess I might organise an actual m/w visit while I'm there. It all feels very much like I've done all this before this time! So much normal in the preparation.

I am starting to feel a little excited about the birth though and totally looking forward to the babymoon high! Already hanging on to how it's gonna feel when bub is born. That was so unexpected last time - it's almost like I'm hanging out for another 'hit'! If it wasn't for raising all of the kids, I could do this again and again. Although after the last week with my seven year old girl... Big reality check. I get glimpses of so much ability/responsibility, followed by Attitude (capital on purpose). So contrary! I don't like complaining about my ordinarily beautiful children, but oh dear, I hope this is a temporary phase. It's like if I ask her to do something, she'll say no, or do it on a go slow, just to annoy me on purpose. And she knows she's doing it. Little bugger.

I keep reminding myself I'm possibly going to have to do the seven-year-old-girl-thing three times. As nervous as I am about what I'd do with a boy - this last week has me thinking maybe it's preferable.

Booked in my 12 wk scan for 20 Jun and will get bloods next week so they're ready in time. Got referrals from my GP. Who is the best GP ever, knows about bfing and totally onboard with my homebirths. Good care providers just make such a difference.