Homebirth General Discussion #15

[HotI]

I am so sorry The Mrs. Not sure if i missed you, or you fell off the list at same point. I just quote it each time, but maybe i quoted an old list.

Anyone had a doula and a midwife attend their homebirth? Just wondering what role the doula played. I am much more undecided this time about who i want at the birth. I kinda know what i don't want. and even if i think of a descriptor of who i do want, i don't know someone who matches the description itms. How much do doulas charge?

[Arimeh]

Anyone had a doula and a midwife attend their homebirth? Just wondering what role the doula played. I am much more undecided this time about who i want at the birth. I kinda know what i don't want. and even if i think of a descriptor of who i do want, i don't know someone who matches the description itms. How much do doulas charge?

I had a choice between two midwives for this birth - one that works with other midwives and two attend your birth, and the other midwife brings a doula instead.

There was $500 difference between their costs. I chose the two midwives, one for me, and one for the baby - just in case. Doulas are great at supporting women during childbirth but would they know how to handle a PPH if that happened at the same exact time as the baby stopped breathing and needed medical attention? I'm going with what is the safest option for me - and thats two midwives.

[Eenee]

I am so sorry The Mrs. Not sure if i missed you, or you fell off the list at same point. I just quote it each time, but maybe i quoted an old list.

Anyone had a doula and a midwife attend their homebirth? Just wondering what role the doula played. I am much more undecided this time about who i want at the birth. I kinda know what i don't want. and even if i think of a descriptor of who i do want, i don't know someone who matches the description itms. How much do doulas charge?

I had student midwife both times as well as my MW and second MW (which usually came later), I don't feel I need a doula as my MW was pretty good at filling the role.

Thanks for the suggestions girls on the smoothies etc. but I'm dairy free which makes it hard. I have a dairy free protein powder which my MW wants me to be taking (as my diet is particularly lacking in protein) and it just tastes awful, the texture is horrid and makes me gag I haven't found a way to consume it yet...I have another appointment with MW on Thursday as my issues with food are just getting worse and considering there's a long way to go until Bub is due I don't know how much longer I can keep it up. I hate my mental health issues but they seem to be consuming me at the moment. I honestly don't know what can be done though, I feel like a bit of a lost cause.

[meow]

I honestly don't know what can be done though, I feel like a bit of a lost cause.

No you're not hon Honestly, the chicken broth would be amazing for you- first step to heal mental disorders attached to a eating disorders. I would HIGHLY recommend you get on an amino acid supplement too.

I have some great dairy free smoothies too- coconut milk is wonderful.

This would be REALLY good for to get in protien and the fats your poor brain needs.

From Loving Our Guts
GAPS Hot Chocolate.

• 1 pastured egg
• 1 TBSP Coconut Oil
• 2 TBSP Cocoa powder
• 1 TBSP Gelatin (optional)
• 1 TBSP butter (sub with extra coconut oil for dairy free or ghee for lactose & casein free)
• 1/8th tsp himalayan crystal salt
• 1 TBSP Honey
• 1 cup boiling water

Put all ingredients except water in the blender. Boil water and slowly pour over the rest of the ingredients while blending. Makes one serving.
I made this using a Hand Blender. I put all of the ingredients except water into a wide mouth qt jar. Then I poured in the water and quickly blended it all up.

[Eenee]

No you're not hon Honestly, the chicken broth would be amazing for you- first step to heal mental disorders attached to a eating disorders. I would HIGHLY recommend you get on an amino acid supplement too.

Sorry forgot to add as kids woke up (they were in the car asleep), I am that nutty I will only eat food freshly prepared by me and even then I can have complete meltdowns that the food is somehow 'contaminated'. Being pregnant has developed the eating disorder to another level of fear of listeria/food poisoning/contamination. I understand to a point that these thoughts are irrational but I get to a point where it consumes me so much that I can't not live by these strict rules. My midwife is aware I'm like this and she's been a great support (pretty much my only support), but I think it gets a bit beyond her to know what to do.

[Jennifer13]

Anyone had a doula and a midwife attend their homebirth? Just wondering what role the doula played. I am much more undecided this time about who i want at the birth. I kinda know what i don't want. and even if i think of a descriptor of who i do want, i don't know someone who matches the description itms. How much do doulas charge?

I had a friend as my doula, as well as my m/w and backup m/w. My doula has acted as birth support in the past, but is not 'qualified' as such (she should be, she was brilliant!). Will def be having her again. We gave her some gift vouchers as a thank you and a massage as well (she spent some time on her knees in an uncomfortable position!). I'm not sure how much a doula usually charges.

My doula was effectively the physical and emotional support with me, before my m/w arrived and during. She brought me drinks, massaged my back, came when it was only early labour and went for a walk with me, brought over extra food and stuff (that I didn't think of), just thought about the things I might need in birth before and during. Totally took the pressure of DP, who had no idea what to expect. Made for a really relaxed environment at the birth. Felt like everyone had their roles and stuck with those.

ETA: there weren't any HBAC restrictions on my m/ws. They did early on talk to me about risk and they signed one of their own forms to say they'd had a discussion with me about it, but that was all. When I saw the ob at the hospital she told me she had to say she'd advised me against a HBAC as well due to policy, but that she thought it was great and I'd be fine. So there's 'requirements' and there's the way they go about doing it.