Thanks The_Mrs.

I have realised that I have a little issue though, so opinions would be great. We sort of have organised my mum to come down when I go into labour to help watch the kids and take them somewhere if they no longer want to be in the house when I'm labouring. However, every time I mention it to mum she's all negative about the kids not wanting to hear me scream, and that I'm going to traumatise them for life if they watch. Which DH and I don't agree with at all - they've seen birth videos and are really excited about seeing the baby come out. My mum is one of those people who does nothing but talk about the excruciating pain of child birth and how she nearly died having my brother (no wonder I have issues about pain!) and is just really negative about the whole natural birth thing, she supported my sister really well through her 4 c-sections (for no medical reason) and is quite in favour of them over natural child birth.

SO! Knowing all this, I feel that her whole vibe will disrupt the birthing vibes I will have going on - does that sound stupid? I have a friend who lives 5 minutes away who has agreed to be on call to come and watch the kids, however she's only met them a few times, and thats only the girls, she's never met DS before. So I'm not sure they will feel as comfortable with her as they would with my mum?

Or I've thought that I could ring my SIL to come, my kids absolutely adore her - and she's had two vbac's herself, she nearly completed her doula training and she's a nurse. However, she lives about an hours drive away and might be at work.

Should I bother to ask her? Should I give my mum the benefit of the doubt? She saw that Sunday program on homebirth and was texting me that she is worried and all she wants is for me to have a baby thats alive. So I know she hates the idea of a homebirth.

ARGH. What do I do?