Homebirth General Discussion #15

[HotI]

My DD slept last time too. Would love it if they both slept through! I think it would be ok with one of them, but not both. Or i need another support person, and i don't know if there is someone who can come that would suit.

I just want a cupboard i can crawl into really (with a birth pool) and i can emerge when bub is out, just like i was playing hide and seek.

[Bella29]

My dd was at daycare most of the day when I was laboring. I dropped her off during early labour . It was a bit funny when I had to stop and have a contraction. She came home at about 5:30 and could hear me but was fine. I had a doula/other Hb mamma, who came along and cared for her after having supported me thru the day. She came and kissed me, but didn't stay. Was bathed and gotten ready for bed just before I gave birth. She was with me within about 30 se nods of baby arriving and then left before coming back after the placenta was born. I don't think I would want her actively there and bored. Having said that, I have seen her sit incredibly still when she is fascinated. So maybe for this next one she will be good . But yeah I will absolutely have a doula for them. Someone who understands the birth space and can make sure she is cared for in a way that honors both of our needs, with mine being the priority on the day.

[HotI]

For the September mums to be, are there any words or phrases you are using as a focus?


I breastfed Abby and read her a story and then sat on her bed while she fell asleep in early labour. It was once she was asleep that labour really kicked in, and then no breaks til he was here. I am a bit scared that this labour will be longer and i don't know if i can cope with that. i got off pretty lightly last time. Although bit longer in the pool would be nice!

[meow]

That list of birth videos sounds great! I had to watch a bunch to veto the ones to show my son. I found he wasn't bothered by the noise in the videos though yet he was by me. I used to read Hello Baby and add in the sound effects as the mama is pushing the baby out etc. That helped him get used to it.

I wasn't at all bothered by his presence in labour but I guess he's a pretty unique kid so maybe it was just his nature? He gave me a few cuddles in early labour in the morning while we were waiting for my H to come home. Then I didn't see him as I moved in the spare room to focus on labour and my H put him down for his nap. It was only when woke up about an hour before birth that he was really around for the birth I guess and even then I didn't see or hear him as he just peeked in the door and that was it.

[glorious]

DS was almost two when he was at dds birth I had prepared him and he was great. He didn't spend all his time in with us, would come and check up on me then off he would go and play with his grandma. At the time of birth he was outside but was trying to get back in as he heard me and knew something was happening.

[Arimeh]

Thanks guys. My mum sent me a text last night saying that we have to talk about all the what ifs and what could happen and how its all very dramatic - so we have to discuss "The Birth". I sent my SIL a message via facebook last night asking if I could call on her instead, and she said of course I can - so I'm getting her rosters since she's working to make sure we know who to call when I go into labour.

Was funny when I had Mary here yesterday, I love talking to her, and she was telling me about the week she spent with Ina May at a huge conference she was at (mind you - so jealous she got to meet Ina May, let alone hang out with her for the week!!!) and she told us a story about someone was holding a demonstration of a water birth, and Ina May was standing there at the pools, flicking fake poops into the water as they were talking!! Bahahahahahaha!!!!!! Apparently the demonstrators had no idea how these poops were getting there, and the people in the water were starting to freak out because they didn't know where they had come from. Hysterical!!!

Love Ina May. Just love her.

[meow]

Keepin' it real

I'm glad you're working on the plan for your kid's birth support xx

[Mum2twoBoys]

If you need hoti, you can put me down as a child minder. Happy to come there or have them here.

Not many words etc, but I'm more trying to get into a zone ready for labour.

[TeniBear]

HotI, I've got a big list of affirmations I've put together for myself and future doula clients - do you want me to send it to you? There's some long ones and some short ones, visualisations and the like... I sent it to Arimeh last week, hopefully it's helped And if not, given other ideas at least.

[Arimeh]

I didn't get it Teni - I forgot to tell you. Dunno where it went, but it didn't come into my email.

hotI - I don't have anything in particular, I have lots of things on my cheat sheet though, affirmations, different things to try for pain relief, different relaxation techniques etc, and DH just goes through the list and tries something else if something isn't working. I also put out on my facebook for people to write me letters of support for something else to read after each contraction to prepare me for the next one coming. Like positive affirmation after positive affirmation type of thing.

[Bella29]

Double! Lol, it resent from last night.

[TeniBear]

I didn't get it Teni - I forgot to tell you. Dunno where it went, but it didn't come into my email.

That's odd... Want me to send again, or do you think you're set? I might just pop them in a new post, it's not like I need to hoard them I just collected them from various blog posts and the like...

[Arimeh]

Can never have too many! Post away!

[TeniBear]

Oops, I just saw what I'd done wrong. Used the wrong title in your email address Resending now

[Arimeh]

The wrong title? Did you call me mrs or something lol

[TeniBear]

Miss I must've actually typed it out rather than copy-pasted like I would usually do.

Getting started on rearranging the house this weekend - buh-bye bookcases in the loungeroom! I don't know where some things are going to go, but I want "my" corner cleared out at the very least... I hope we're not moving stuff while I'm in labour because DH has been too lazy to do it :-/ That's entirely possible, TBH.

[Arimeh]

Hahaha!!! Been a long time since I was a miss

[*The_Mrs.*]

Having horrible cramping at 22 weeks. Any natural ways to help? My midwife said warm tea but it didn't help.