If I could only have one midwife at this birth and didn't have the choice of having two, I would definitely have a doula.
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If I could only have one midwife at this birth and didn't have the choice of having two, I would definitely have a doula.
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I would have a few alarm bells about a MW who doesn't want a doula. What are her reasons?
I also had two MWs as the MWs I worked with only work that way to ensure they're covered in a "one for mother and one for baby" situation. But I also had a student MW who did all the stuff PZ mentioned for a doula except she stayed away from me as I had my connection with my H and MWs. She got me snacks (cut up icypoles into bite size pieces) and made me post-natal tea and prepared my peri-soak bath and all these little things. She also watched my son in another room as he didn't want to come in. She was great!
How are you feeling eenee? I think drinking smoothies is a great idea. And can someone make you a big pot of chicken broth? VERY healing and has all the amino acids you need without having to eat
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Well, PZ summed up what she'll be doing at my birth a lot better than I was going toYeah, I'm having my two midwives plus her - she's there for the emotional/physical/run-around-like-a-headless-chook side of things, the midwives are there to ensure the baby and I come out of it intact. Of course there'll be some crossover there, but that's sort of how I see their basic roles...
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She just says that she can do everything a doula does. She is very hands on and does a lot more than a midwife should. In my state it is illegal for a midwife to deliver a VBAC and she is doing it anyways. I really trust her. To be honest though if I could afford it I would have a doula rather her feelings or not. Since I'm due around Xmas all of the doulas have jacked their prices up near me for having to be on call around then so I just can't afford it
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Illegal to deliver a VBAC!?!? WTH?!?!!? What state is that? How ridiculous.
She just says that she can do everything a doula does. She is very hands on and does a lot more than a midwife should. In my state it is illegal for a midwife to deliver a VBAC and she is doing it anyways. I really trust her. To be honest though if I could afford it I would have a doula rather her feelings or not. Since I'm due around Xmas all of the doulas have jacked their prices up near me for having to be on call around then so I just can't afford it
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it s not that far off what is happening here. more and more midwives no longer doing hbac s due to restrictions or fear of being reported for random reasons.
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Plus she is having a student midwife come along as well
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Washington state. I'm in the USA and we aren't very vbac friendly
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I had a friend have a HBAC in WA last year with no problems. I thought WA was pretty good with HB. Is that a new law?
We're in CA now and it's ilegal to have breech or twins at home but I'm pretty sure VBAC is "allowed".
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It could be just a local county thing? Or a rule of the hospital where those midwives have privileges?
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It's the same story here.Washington state. I'm in the USA and we aren't very vbac friendly) And it makes sense for the system too - happy mums, healthy babies, and lower costs all around.
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Had my appt today. Baby is 1/5 engaged and in perfect position! Mw is very happy with everything, though I could be more organised. She asked if I had anything done yet and i was like 'I washed clothes on the weekend...' She laughed and told me I better get onto it this weekend.
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I can physically have an HBAC that's not illegal..it's more so for insurance purposes for the midwife if they deliver at my house. It is illegal to do it in birthing centers. Some of our actual hospitals are starting be more accepting of VBACS. Though for home birthing if something were to go wrong their insurance wouldn't cover it or something like that. It's their way of trying to control it since they pyhsically can't.
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And when I say illegal I mean not for myself but the other party. A lot of midwives do it anyway because they figure that its safe so nothing should happen.
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Ah okay. In Australia MWs can't get insurance for ANY type of HB, so they all occur uninsured. Thankfully, with public health care that is less of an issue though if something were to go wrong and mother or baby needed ongoing medical care.
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Yeah the issue here is that sometimes it is hard to find a midwife willing. Luckily I found a great one willing but I was turned down by another midwife
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Birth pool is in the house!! yipppeee!!! My midwife came this morning for a house check, and she said our area planned for birth was fine, advised on which tap connector to get for the laundry, did her normal check (bp is 105/66 so fantastic!) and we discussed birth plan stuff - like what I wanted after birth, when to call her etc etc.
I have a floating high baby though, so have to try and get him down a bit. He's in the right position at the moment but floating way above my pelvis, so she said if my water breaks, I have to get on my hands and knees with my butt in the air until she gets there. Which would be a very uncomfortable position to hold for 45 minutes, so I'm kind of glad that my waters have never broken early in labour or I might be a bit worried about it.
Gotta try getting this baby to move down a bit - any ideas other than spinning babies and rebozo? She told my DH how to do it and said to do it morning and night, plus I'm having regular chiro treatments to loosen up my pelvis because its super tight on my right side.
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Double post - but will add that I got the emergency kit in the house too now - getting kinda real now!
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